When ever I get upset, I forget my words.

This is a big problem because if i'm talking to my father or his friends or really anyone, and I get upset, I can't speak anymore. Also sometimes I can't find my words. Like I know that i know a word that fits what I want to say, but my mind like misplaced the word.

I notice this Most when my brother or sisters tease me and I try to talk back or say something smart and All that comes out is I studder, or say something that makes no sense, ike I say it backwords or something.

When ever I want to talk to my teachers or like anyone older then me about something, I have to think about the exact words i plan to use, and then I have to guess what they will say, and make my answers ahead of time. Most of the time when I do this, I sound very organized, and inteligent.

The problem is, when I can't plan what to say. Is there anything I can do so that words will be easier to remember when im upset?

please dont take this the wrong way but do you have a brain injury?

This sort of thing is quite common in people who have been droped on there heads (or been involved in road trauma ect)

My biological mom did drugs while I was in her tummy. That technically makes me, well my mom the one that adopted me, she says i'm called a coke baby.

I think I was neglected untill I was 3 too. I don't remember though. lol

This is not an unusual feeling in children. Sometimes our ability to think develops faster than our mastery of language. I had the same problem from around age ten into junior high school. What happened then was a class in Spanish; it was a required subject in the 7th grade in my school. Learning to think in a second language forces you to think about language consciously, to be aware of the meanings of words and the subtle differences between the "equivalents" in two languages. 7th-grade Spanish was not an especially challenging class but it laid the groundwork for what was to come. I found it fascinating so in the 10th grade I signed up for real high-school Spanish and began studying the language formally.

My command of English began to improve dramatically. I could always read well and follow the gist of adult conversations, but now I could write about advanced topics and speak with adults without embarrassing myself. The next year I actually wrote for the school newspaper.

Subsequently I took university classes in German and Russian, and my Chinese girlfriend taught me Mandarin (with help from a community college class). With each new language providing a different way of dealing with words and sentences, my English skill continued to increase. Now I'm a published writer, a professional editor, and I teach ESL and writing classes.

I strongly recommend that you study a foreign language. People don't realize that it will help them improve their command of their own language. If you're a person who recoils at the thought of taking a language class, it's probably because you have a hunch that it will be hard work. In that case your language skills need improvement and you desperately need the class!

Its the fight or flight instinct kicking in. When we feel threatened or angry, our logic and reasoning goes righty out the window. The key BG, is to learn how to keep your cool in these situations.

When ever I get upset, I forget my words.

Then you should try and stop yourself from becoming angry.



Like I know that i know a word that fits what I want to say, but my mind like misplaced the word.


Try to find a word that you know that could be used instead.

great...drugs + brain damage...whats next?

great...drugs + brain damage...whats next?

How about some help?:shrug:

How about some help?:shrug:

what help is there? brain surgery...drug addiction treatment facility...psychiatric help...

Being kind and listening would be a start.:)

My biological mom did drugs while I was in her tummy.

It is hard to know if that is true, maybe she didnt while pregnant. That doesnt matter anyway and what you describe is normal. The main thing is that you cannot keep using that same old crutch to explain things you are not happy about.

your honnestly forget words our are you yust pondering with your l'esprit des escalier? Anyway at many times you'l find yourself wanting for the perfect answer and then it comes at you afther you made a complete ass of yourself. Anyway try to keep calm and best learn some sign language

This sort of "problem" is actually quite common in adolescence. Known colloquially as "brain not engaged", during speech. It's partly hormonal - it comes with pimples and so on.

It's because you're thinking ahead of yourself, and you haven't learned how to catch up, in a verbal sense - you'll get the hang of it, as you learn more words and more ways to say "the same thing". Sometimes you kind of say something you "didn't mean" to, right?

No, your talking about puberty. This is not mood swings and rebellious back talking. I do not back talk. That is my brother and he makes dad very very mad with it.

I'm talking about, like I learn a word, and I become dependant on it. For example: condescending.

I can be talking to my sissy, and she can get mad at me and say something mean. I think to call her condescending, but I forget the word. So instead I say "I I you I'm you can be mean you i'm not dumb" Then she would either mock that I studderd or she would make fun of my words because there not even coherent. This happens like every time I try to defend myself, or when I try to say anything when my heart is beating fast. Like if i'm getting yelled at, or accused of somthing, or like anything. It's not because of puberty though.

I did consider the 2nd language thing. I know some spanish...

Hola, Como esta? yo se poco espanol por que mi simpatico padre va al espanya aveces. No me gusta espanol por que hay es no divertidos. Mirror? mi espanol estas muy mal.

It doesn't seem to help though... If I did want to learn one, it would arabic, or chinese. I have no time though, and I was thinking of buying a book, but who would I practice with or ask questions? I wouldnt even be able to hard the accent to see if I say it correctly.

i know that people who ahve had strokes can forget they're words, but my guess is that you ahvent had a stroke?

It doesn't seem to help though... If I did want to learn one, it would arabic, or chinese. I have no time though, and I was thinking of buying a book, but who would I practice with or ask questions? I wouldnt even be able to hard the accent to see if I say it correctly.

Check out this site...

http://how-to-learn-any-language.com/e/index.html

or

http://www.learnlangs.com/languages.htm

For example: condescending.



I find little mental image cues can help.
To remember condescending, my visual cue is a Greek parachutist.

Pleased to help, Spudder.

To remember condescending, my visual cue is a Greek parachutist.

:bravo: