David Duchovny is back from sex rehab. I wonder how the treatment works? Like putting eletrodes to his balls and getting shocked when he gets a hard on???

I don't know but it's the stupidest idea I've ever heard of.

Duchovny's problem (and society's imo) is not getting enough sex.

Obviously Tea Leoni is a frigid prude who only cares about herself and not her husband.

How is abstinence from masturbation going to help?

It's going to make things worse.

Contrary to what you may believe, sexual addiction does not = not getting enough. A quick search yielded some interesting results:



The sex addict uses sex as a quick fix, or as a form of medication for anxiety, pain, loneliness, stress, or sleep. Sex addicts often refer to sex as their "pain reliever" or "tension reliever." In a popular novel, the heroine describes sex as "the thinking women's Valium."

Other indicators that sexual behavior may be out of control include: an obsession with sex that dominates one's life, including sexual fantasies that interfere with work performance; so much time devoted to planning sexual activity that it interferes with other activities; strong feelings of shame about one's sexual behavior; a feeling of powerlessness or inability to stop despite predictable adverse consequences; inability to make a commitment to a loving relationship; extreme dependence upon a relationship as a basis for feelings of self-worth; or little emotional satisfaction gained from the sex act.

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The first major study of sexual addiction was published by Patrick Carnes in 1991.4 It was based on questionnaires filled out by 752 males and 180 females diagnosed as sex addicts, most of them admitted for treatment in the in-patient Sexual Dependency Unit of a hospital in Minnesota. The others had at least three years of participation in one of the 12-step programs for recovery from sexual addition. Of the sex addicts in this survey, 63% were heterosexual, 18% homosexual, 11% bisexual, and 8% were unsure of their sexual preference.

The sexual addicts who responded to Carnes' questionnaire were typically unable to form close friendships. Their feelings of shame and unworthiness made them unable to accept real intimacy. They were certain they would be rejected if others only knew what they were "really" like, so they found myriad obsessive ways to turn away a potential friend or loving partner. Despite a large number of superficial sexual contacts, they suffered from loneliness, and many developed a sense of leading two lives--one sexual, the other centered around their occupation or other "normal" activity.

In Carnes' survey, 97% responded that their sexual activity led to loss of self-esteem. Other reported emotional costs were strong feelings of guilt or shame, 96%; strong feelings of isolation and loneliness, 94%; feelings of extreme hopelessness or despair, 91%; acting against personal values and beliefs, 90%; feeling like two people, 88%; emotional exhaustion, 83%; strong fears about own future, 82%; and emotional instability, 78%.

Carnes found that 42% of sex addicts in his sample also had a problem with either alcohol or drug dependency and 38% had eating disorders.

The roots of out-of-control sexual behavior may be quite varied. It may be caused by an underlying personality disorder, an "addiction" to sex, or a physical disorder. The traditional disorders of exaggerated sexuality, nymphomania in the female and satyriasis in the male, are believed to be caused by a disorder of the pituitary gland or irritation of the brain cortex by a tumor, arteriosclerosis or epilepsy. These physical disorders are rare.

Consequences of Sexual Addiction

Out-of-control sexuality may have serious adverse consequences. In the Carnes survey of individuals in treatment, 38% of the men and 45% of the women contracted venereal diseases; 64% reported that they continued their sexual behavior despite the risk of disease or infection. Of the women, 70% routinely risked unwanted pregnancy by not using birth control, and 42% reported having unwanted pregnancies.

Many patients had pursued their sexual activities to the point of exhaustion (59%) or even physical injury requiring medical treatment (38%). Many (58%) pursued activities for which they felt they could be arrested and 19% actually were arrested. Sleep disorders were reported by 65%; they usually resulted from stress or shame connected with the sexual activity.

Of the survey respondents, 56% experienced severe financial difficulty because of their sexual activity. Loss of job productivity was reported by 80%, and 11% were actually demoted as a result. Many of these problems are, of course, encountered by persons whose sexuality is not out of control, but the percentages are much lower.

http://www.sexual-addiction.net/what_is_sexual_addiction.php


As for the rehabilitation, I too was curious.

This is from one rehab center:


The goal of treatment is to eliminate the sexual behavior patterns that create unwanted consequences and loss. We help identify the underlying trauma and stressors that lead to sexual acting out, while providing the tools needed toward relationship health and intimacy. Our Men's gender specific, residential program is based on the pioneering work of Patrick Carnes, PhD. and our Managing Director, Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT.

Our Treatment Methods Include:

* Extensive Sexual Interview and Evaluation
* Identification of Stressors and Triggers
* Elimination of Problem Sex and Relationship Behaviors
* Introduction of Healthy Coping and Intimacy Skills
* Shame Reduction
* Cognitive-Behavioral Planning
* Trauma Exploration and Symptom Reduction
* Family Involvement - where appropriate

http://www.life-healing.com/sexual-addiction-men.php


I think they basically follow a similar plan to treating addiction like alcoholics follow when they attend places like AA.

David Duchovny is back from sex rehab. I wonder how the treatment works? Like putting eletrodes to his balls and getting shocked when he gets a hard on???

They condition them to see their parents face every time they think about sex.:D

Sex is being used as a substitute for other things or to suppress certain emotions.
You can do this with food, with risk taking with drugs, etc.
I have no idea what his rehab does, but it seems like a good idea to get the person to face his or her real feelings and needs and desires rather than channeling them into sex.

As much sex can be had later, but for sex.

I've been in un-intentional sex rehab for the last 5 months! :(

OK, next question:

When the person is out of rehab, is his sexlife screwed up with his wife for good? After all it is like having a few "legal" cigarette, after going cold turkey on smoking...

I guess they are trying to condition him so he wouldn't use sex as a substitute or help for his problems. One reason why diets fail, because people need to eat for survival, not like smoking or drugs. But the same with sex, if he is married they need to have sex, so there is the danger of falling back I guess..

Maybe they can switch him to smoking from sex. Better to have a smoking husband than a cheating one...

I think pretty much all men are addicted to sex...if we weren't we'd never shower or shave. Some guys are just slick and like to blame it on a "condition".

I think pretty much all men are addicted to sex...if we weren't we'd never shower or shave.
Exactly. Next they are going to open a clinic for oxygen addiction.

Bells, there is one difference between treating a sex adict and treating a drug adict or acholic ect. That is the fact that sex is nessary, someone can stop drinking forever and the mantra of AA is that one is to many, the same with drugs but food and sex adictions cant be treated that way and are there for MUCH harder to treat

Bells, there is one difference between treating a sex adict and treating a drug adict or acholic ect. That is the fact that sex is nessary, someone can stop drinking forever and the mantra of AA is that one is to many, the same with drugs but food and sex adictions cant be treated that way and are there for MUCH harder to treat

I don't think it's so much that sex is bad for you as alcohol or drugs might be bad for you.

From what I have read, sex addiction is treated in a similar fashion to alcohol addiction, for example. They aren't targeting the sex itself, but the reason behind it. People who suffer from sex addiction have sex because it is an escape from something else.. they end up endangering their own and the lives of others as a result. Sex is seen as an escape and thus, they seek more and more of it without dealing with the issue of why they need to escape.

actually bells sex with a sex adict can be as dangerious as shooting up. One of the symptioms which carictorise the disorder is compulsive RISKY sex. Both in the sence of without protection and physical risk

But thats not what i ment, i wasnt talking about the danger of it but rather the fact that like compulsive eating you cant just say "no more food\sex" and use that as a treatment straigy. Abstanance isnt a cure in these cases

I think they basically follow a similar plan to treating addiction like alcoholics follow when they attend places like AA.

Cause AA works and all.