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Very first post!
Don't let the title put you off, I'm not being forward!
I just wonder, while we have almost twenty years of a virus that can induce an element of mortality into an otherwise vital existance, does anybody have an opinion on why should people, having sex for the first time, not protect themselves?
Can anyone tell me of a time where they have not protected themselves in such a circumstance, but more importantly, tell me why?
I repeat, this is not a kinky thing, I work in sexual health medicine, and I wanted to reach out and research! :)
When I lost my virginity, I actually had a pack of condoms, but got so carried away with lust that they stayed in the pack.
I have been a more sensible boy since then.
Have you heard anything or seen anything that your oath allows you to divulge?
Have many happy posts!
01-09-02, 06:46 AM
I have to admit that the use of condoms does tend to interrupt the train of thought ongoing at the time :D , but the only time I have not used a condom was when a previous discussion about both of our sexual histories had taken place.
I know, I know, there is still a risk, but at the time it seemed to be a greatly reduced risk.
seeker of truth, now brings another question.
It's a source of irony I suppose but,
is it the urge to have sex and therefore procreate that causes us to risk our lives. Is it lust and is lust the factor that quells all other (Common) Sense?
01-10-02, 10:08 AM
I remember reviewing a statistic a couple of years ago in my sociology class which boasted that about 70% of the average male's effort is somehow directly or indirectly aimed at having sex. If this is true it represents by a landslide the greater portion of our efforts. With this in mind it is sort of easy to imagine how in the heat of the moment one can forget about his long-lasting health (or financial future) and throw all caution to the wind. Many of these are the same people who in normal conversation will swear by "safe-sex", it happens regularly. So the next question is: żIf nothing bad comes of an unprotected act of sex was it worth it? Hmmmm.
01-10-02, 11:17 AM
Originally posted by SeekerOfTruth
I have to admit that the use of condoms does tend to interrupt the train of thought...
Death can occasionally interrupt it as well. ;)
01-10-02, 12:53 PM
Only if you don't believe in either reincarnation or the afterlife :D
If you have been with someone for a long time like I have, unprotected sex happens. Of course birth control is there though. We both had been tested for disease and I trust we are both living up to our agreement to use protection if we sleep with anyone but ourselves. Its a choice and risk we take for pleaseure.
I suppose I was really aiming the question toward casual sex.
Long term relationships are a different thing, however call me cynical if you will, I just know after ten years working in sexual health that monogamy is not as prevalent as it seems.
We can all fall down for a pretty face (or whatever bit you like to look at :D )
This leads to guilt which leads to deception.
The world is bonking the world and most of us are lying about it!
I also know that job security is way way down on my list of worries 'cause let's face it this is everybody's favourite hobby.
There's just no point in such risk taking, yet I witness it every single day of my working life.
If you did it why did ya do it?
tell me more
Like Jerry springer without the swearing and fights
01-11-02, 08:34 AM
I would like to clarify my previous response. I have never had 'casual' sex with somebody in which I did not use a condom. The only time I have had sex without a condom was with someone I had previously discussed the possibilities of STDs with and whom I had been with for some time and felt I could trust their responses. It was still a risk, but at the time it was in my opinion a very small risk.
Remember, this is an open question, not directed at any individual. I'm interested in reasons for such action from anyone who feels safe enough to disclose them
The more responses I get the better idea I have and so my work can improve
01-25-02, 03:21 PM
Okay, the times I had unprotected sex, the reason was..... ignorance. Honestly, I was young and ignorant. Thinking that the other person "HAS" to be safe. I am a bit older and wiser now but at the time, I wasnt. And people I know that did it, their excuse was the same. "Well, he seemed safe." Very ignorant. I think the younger people think the same way. And lets face it, having sex without a condom feels alot better that with one. But that is still a stupid reason. Hope I helped a little:)
01-29-02, 11:25 AM
I agree that sex without a condom does feel better, but I also think that its mental rather than physical feeling(speeking from a male perspective).
The fact that there is more freedom to do other things, move around and keep going without having to remove the condom and don a new one gives a better sexual experience.
The mental reason for me having unprotected sex is that I think it will be more pleasurable, but with the same partner, I have used condoms at times aswell and the sensation physically didn't feel that much different at all, although mentally it fealt restricting to wear it.
As always though, sensuality is a thing for the mind and the physical part is just the way we express it to our partner in whatever way is mutually pleasurable.
True the biggest erogenoue zone is the brain.
Unfortunately, it's the one with the most trip wires.
Thank you all for your consistant honesty it is a great help to me please continue.:D
It may be interesting to note that men are genetically programed to seek out more than one partner. Its a biological fact.
Just by the way :)
02-02-02, 04:10 PM
I have a question : Lets say you saw somedody nude does that mean that you lost your virginity?
Tedman"Xp" I have a question : Lets say you saw somedody nude does that mean that you lost your virginity?
In my mind, there's no way in which simply being seen in the buff can count as loss of virginity.
I think that there has to be penetration of some sort.
But I'm not sure where oral would stand in the matter.
The main point made from saying that the brain is the main sexual centre is that there is very little of the sexual process that leads to orgasm or climax or whatever, which is related to sensory input, that happens anywhere else.
OK. All the physical things happen locally in the body, but it's the brain where it's all happening.