I believe this is a very important question to ask oneself. Probably the most important question. Love is the reality, not the delusion. I suspect love might make one altruistic and free. Evolution and survival of the fittest are to some extent "intelligent" because it is the order of nature. I don't mean to imply a deity, but it might be possible. Thus, "could you be loved?" is important to ask.
I don't think I understand your position. Love is an optional emotion. Mankind is composed of many personalities where many MUST have love while others of a more analytical nature see it as less important or not important. Our primeval instincts force us to form relationships as part of the procreation paradigm that ensures species survival. In some those instincts are strong and not so in others. Once we find a cure to the disease of aging I suspect that both sex and love will significantly diminish as driving forces in our lives.
it's not a disease, death is a wonderful experience. you know... i've stopped searching for a "cure" for immortality... because i know that i can't die and nonexistence is illogical and impossible.
But in many cultures its only the powerful that subjugate their citizens that control who marries who, not for love but for whatever purposes that society wants its citizens to conform to. Love plays no part and those found not following the rules of the elite are murdered. Cambodia comes to mind during the Pol Pot regime just 20 years ago where many people who married because they loved each other were killed as well as their babies when found out by those in charge.
I agree with Dragon, one only has to allow it. I see a far more important question is, "Can I truly love others?" I suppose that question is open to misinterpretation, I am using the agape or phileo meaning of love, not eros.
We must love ourselves before we can love others. God is the source of loving oneself. We cannot conceive of, nor perceive, what we are. The spirit is only nothing to our senses. But spirit is what gives us strength, and can mean the difference between life and death.
The only ones who really don't love themselves...are those who commit suicide. Everyone else is just faking their dislike, the subconsciousness can't be fooled.
everybody can be loved. EVERYBODY! Charles Manson had women who loved him, hundreds died for the love of Jim Jones, etc. There's always someone who will put up with your shit.
I've become impervious to love. I won't allow it to have any affect on me however I will continue to love others.
the effect is never halted Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!, you are just hiding it within you ... a bad thing to do.
Love is a funny thing. It can make you feel amazing, but on the other hand can be the most painful feeling. I think ppl that have been terribly hurt by someone and have given up, shouldn't. It's always a chance and a gamble. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but I think it's worth the gamble.
If I send love but don't receive love it doesn't feel good because there is no connection... there has to be sending and receiving from both parts.
how do you love someone who doesn't love you? I would need that connection to fall in love in the first place.
Of course everyone can be loved. All they need to do is get a dog. Why do you think dogs are so popular?
It's gradual. You fall a little bit in love and if there's good chemistry the other person falls a little bit in love with you. Then you keep building on it. It is unusual for one person to be fully in love with someone who does not love them back, rather than infatuation. Nonetheless it happens often enough that most of us have probably observed it.
