Are you for or against spanking kids ?.

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And to james as well,
Not all of the children who fear their parents wrath are even spanked. They might be afraid that their mom is going to take their psp away. I was not advocating spanking, I simply said that ur child must actually fear what their parents might do when they find out their kid has been misbehaving. Like I said in my post, the parent does not have to spank their child in order to have control over their kids, but they need to implement some sort of system. I don't recommend negotiation.

 

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A child does not set out to enrage a parent. If anything they want to please them. Keep that in mind and you won't need to spank. It is usually the parent who forgets that they were once a kid too, that loses control. It's a very tough discipline to maintain.

A deliberate act by a child meant to displease the parent is a sign that you are not paying them much attention and you are too preoccupied with other things.. They need a little love, it's good preventive medicine. Kids will eventually learn what bothers you and believe it or not even bad attention is better than none in their mind.

 

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erm....how many kids have you got or looked after?

i've known kids to openly admit to wanting a fight with they're parents,

 

Let me know who they are so I can contact them and warn them about your violent tendencies towards children.

 

A fantasy you dreamed up?

 

One of my Psychology professors once said that spanking a child teaches them one thing: that you are willing to hurt them to get your way.

I always remembered that.

 

Blind Insect ?

 

Good one!

 

It's the name I use on all forums, social networking sites, etc.

It's just something I derived from song lyrics.

 

Not bad

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people look for all kinds of excuses. for every kid who was spanked (disciplined) who grew up and had problems there are many more who were able to do whatever they wanted as children and get away with it who have far more severe problems.

discussing this makes every instance of spanking seem like abuse but that is not reality. there is a big difference between showing concern and abuse. you want to see adults who grew up with parents who didnt care what they did or allowed them to do whatever they wanted? the prisons are full of them.

 

Psychologists do NOT know everything .
I know a psychologist who left home when she was at university .
She met a lesbian and went living with her .
She did not want to have anything to do with her parents .
Her father died and she did not go to her parents' home or funeral .
She has a very sick brother and an allying mother of 78 years and she does not even visit them .
When her mother phones her she just hangs up on her .
Her mother is my neighbour .

 

the psychologist gave the stock answer, probably read it from a pamphlet. and lets face it, were it not for parents who didnt care about their children would we even need psychologists? its like job security.

 

oh, i can imagine a psychologist being graded by a superior:

'what...your telling people to discipline theyre children?'

'we have to get rid of you'

 

Actually the majority of prisoners experienced some sort of abuse as a child.

Neglect is abuse.

 

It was my opinion. I never said it was fact.

 

True, and no one would expect them to know everything. However, they are clearly in more of a position to comment on these matters than you.

So, do you have any background whatsoever to this incident, or are you just spinning it to suit your agenda?

 

that is why i said they were not disciplined as children.

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and a very good opinion.:bravo:

I have to wonder why Mike is so determined to assault the children he doesn't even have. :bugeye: Do some parents actually use assault before grounding or timeouts?