At my age, you hardly know what the difference between a party friend and a real friend is. I've come to realise that there are only a small handful of people who will actually care about you as much as they care about themselves. I've also come to realise that I have, as yet, never met any of these wonderful people. So I was drunk, running along a country lane in the pitch darkness and not sure where I was going. Let's just say I was made to feel very unwelcome at the party I was at. I left without a word because I didn't want to make a scene, but when it came to it the only person I had left to ring was my dad. So, in typically emotionally-motivated Free Thoughts style, I thought I'd ask how many people in your life you consider to be true friends. Or even how you would define a true friend in the first place.
True friends love you for exactly who you are and are not looking to take anything from you, just share with you. And they're honest. I have a lot of them. Its very comforting and empowering to have friends like that.
one thing i'm sure of..i have a lot of good friends...among other who aren't so good. what i'm not sure of is which is which.
Someone I can trust and depend on. Not someone that cares about me as if they were me, that's fucked up.
Aside from my close family members, I could say that I have 3 good friends and there is a big difference between good friends like that and the people you just hang around with or have fun with occasionally. If you can't feel the difference, I think it's possible you may not have any good friends.
Ok, that was a bit 'clinical'. How about: - People that like me enough to spend a lot of time with me because they like to hang out with me. - They 'get' me. - They are honest and trustworthy, at least towards me. - They can be depended upon in difficult times and in less difficult times.
How old are you? A true friend will do two things for you: bail you out of jail and help you move. I'm the kind of guy that hates the world... yet, I'll do both for a handful of my friends. When I think about it, none of them would do it for me. I helped a friend move a few weeks ago. He promised me a bottle of whiskey.. I have yet to see it.
i've never had to ask for help with a corpse before, but all of my mates have either helped or showed a willingness to help me evade the police. i don't have time for people i can't trust. the way i see it you should never lend a mate more than you're prepared to give them. i compulsively settle all my debts, but if i tallied up everything my mates have promised to pay me back for and never got around to it would be several thousand dollars worth. as long as they're willing to help when it really counts i can forgive something as temporary as money.
Actually I only consider friends only those who actually do care and I can trust on. I have two so far. (not my family members)
I'm 3 years older than you Cellar Door and I have yet to learn to discern well between "party friend" and "real friend". I guess real friends are the ones who will actually help you out when you're down or in trouble, not just enjoy your company when you're at your best. Someone who bugs you until you get help with your depression, or lends you money when you're stuck in another country and can't pay for a train home, is a real friend. Someone who just goofs around with you is a party friend. Of course, a party friend can also be a real friend. You don't know whether someone is a real friend to you until they are tested. I try and be a "real friend" to anyone I like, not just a party friend.
Just 1, depending on your definition otherwise it's 0. Most "friends" in your life will go as quickly as they showed up. Your real friends will still be there in a few years time(and not just because it's a one way street and they can get things outta you). The only way to know which is which is to wait, and see what time brings. As a lot of people have said you don't know until times get tough who your real friends are, or until the time comes when they betray your trust.
