Socializing

Discussion in 'Human Science' started by Treval, Nov 7, 2009.

  1. kira Valued Senior Member

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    Myspace...?

    Ok, sorry, John if that was not funny..!
     
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  3. Treval Banned Banned

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    I am disgusted by the culture around me and the people. My tolerancy reaches a few milliseconds.

    Yeah.. my conversations with people are completely 'strained'.. people's bodylanguage is stiff, they feel very uncomfortable with me (like this icon: :S). I asked them about their things and that's where it ends. It doesn't go further. Also I'm in a class with 100+ people who are absolute autism patients.. rofl. It's just a ****ed up situation with them. We sit in the hallways, everyone looks at the floor like they are some shy 12 year old girls and no one says anything and the silence is just killing.
    It's like this every time. Occassionally you see a conversation between 2 or 3.. out of a 100.. LOL.

    Ah yes I'm very arrogant.
    I always find myself way too intelligent for others.

    The answer is always no.

    Tried it. They react ':S' to me and want to get away from me.

    Laugh. You see we are in our last year, there are no groups. Every man for himself. We all have to hand in a project that we must work on, solitary. No help from others.


    Concering that, one of them got mad at me for shaking hands with him every time I saw him. He said: "Do you always have to shake hands for ****'s sake?!". So yeah.

    Yeah. You tell them the news, they discuss it with you. That's where it ends.

    I once got far, got a classmate to like me, he gave me his phone number and asked me mine. He came over to discuss our project (from last year).
    He kept asking me things about class/project the whole time, even on MSN.
    Finally he admitted he only wanted to contact me because he needed my help on the programming. That was it. He was profiting from my intelligence.
    He abused me. Nice, isn't it?
    That's why I am hesitant to new friendships.

    This other guy in my class last year was also all friendly all of a sudden. But that **** also just wants me to help him through the heavy academic theories they serve us at this moment.
    All he wants is my brain, nothing more. I can confirm this because last year he did this and then he just ignored me after two weeks, went to talk with the rest and when I tried to talk to him he just looked weird at me and ignored me. Also very nice.

    My answer to that: A lot easier said than done.

    Well, this was the best answer yet.
    Thank you very much for your elaborated reply.

    Treval
     
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  5. deicider got omnicidead Registered Senior Member

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    i have OVER 9000!!! :thankyou:
     
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  7. kira Valued Senior Member

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    He is not faking it, of course. It's just previously he wasn't sensitive with some 'socializing issues'. He didn't care the people. Now, he does, and so people care him, too.

    I don't remember how many friends I have in facebook, perhaps about 200, too, and most are people that went to school and uni with me, too. I don't have myspace.
     
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  8. Enmos Valued Senior Member

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    So the difference is that he didn't care about people and now he does?
     
  9. Treval Banned Banned

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    It's OVER 9000!!!!!! WHAT THE **** BOOM!!! ROFL
     
  10. Treval Banned Banned

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    I have 9 friends on FaceBook. Awesoooome.
     
  11. christa Frankly, I don't give a dam! Valued Senior Member

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    some people add anyone and everyone
     
  12. kira Valued Senior Member

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    Treval, sounds like you study in some serious environment. Perhaps one of those best school in your country...?? Maybe it's the last year exam that gives pressure on the social environment. If so, I don't think socializing should be your issue, though...

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    Why is that..?


    This is why you have difficulties in making friends... You can be very intelligent, but remains humble, too... On the other hand, very intelligent people won't be arrogant, because they would notice that there are always other people who knows better in some other things.. nobody knows everything :shrug:

    Hmmm... you gotta learn to read body languages more...


    Well, some people are opportunist, I have met many of them, but not all people are like that. If people ask your help, help if you can. Sometimes, maybe you also need their help. But, if people asking your help all the time, without ever helping you back and want to take everything for granted, you can look for other friends...

    You're welcome. Sorry for not helping much..! Relax man, I believe it's just the pressure of final year.
     
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  13. WillNever Valued Senior Member

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    I have maybe 4 to a max of 6 friends at any given time, maybe 1 or 2 who are closer than the others, and everyone else is just acquainted really. That's always how it has been for me. Beyond that many I don't see how you are spending enough time with others for you to be worthy of calling them friends. You would have to be using the term very loosely, I think.
     
  14. WillNever Valued Senior Member

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    Indeed, foreigners who come to the USA are notorious for calling everyone who is nice to them a "friend." In this way, they end up having a rolodex containing 100+ friends who they see once a year, by chance, and refer to them as friends on that basis. In a lot of ways, it's very similar to having 600+ "friends" on facebook. Many foreigners probably consider all of them friends too.

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  15. kira Valued Senior Member

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    That is one of the difference.

    Nine friends is better than nothing!!?!?!

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    It's the quality that matters. I agree with Enmos, you can't have too many friends (not in facebook, though, in real). Real friends really take time. Hell, my boyfriend alone take almost 50% of my time

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    but I took 50% of his too ^.^
     
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  16. Enmos Valued Senior Member

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    Hmm so the effort was in learning to care about people? How does one go about that without faking it?
    Sorry, I'm just trying to understand..

    I guess that should have read CAN

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  17. kira Valued Senior Member

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    To you it may appear as if he is faking it. To him, he recognizes it as his negative aspect, so he decided to change for his betterment. I don't think he is faking anything.
     
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  18. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Ok, then. If you have the right to say any unreasonable thing, so do I. Go and die.
     
  19. krazedkat IQ of "Highly Gifted"-"Genius" Registered Senior Member

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    About 15 of my friends were handmade by me.

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  20. Treval Banned Banned

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    Banned! -dances-
     
  21. deicider got omnicidead Registered Senior Member

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    Not gonna happen,what needs to happen is that u go out and make urself some confidence.
    Cause thats the source of all ur drama.

    May Rah guide ur way,he paid for ur sins.
     
  22. Nick123 Registered Member

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    People love being anonymous where they can never be judged by their mere appearance or speech, only their thoughts, and they do not have to take shame on their opinions in front of anybody.
     
  23. DRZion Theoretical Experimentalist Valued Senior Member

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    Anonymity leads to depression and crime. This is why huge housing projects often devolve into ghettos. Note how it is frowned upon being anonymous in america - it is unsafe.
     

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