Why have you ended friendships?

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  1. soullust Registered Senior Member

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    because they didn't know who was boss.

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  3. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    One reason. Ignorance? Innocence? Stupidity?

    Because I didn't realise you had to work to keep friendships.
    When I was at University I had some very close friends.
    All gone, because I lost contact with them.

    If you are in your final year at University, gather information about people so you can get in touch.
     
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  5. sifreak21 Valued Senior Member

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    mine happned to be female also..

    she asked me when i was comming back i told her months in advance
    she text me 2 days before said call me when you get to town

    i call her she skips out on hanging out with me "she hasent seen me for almost 4 years" and hangs out with this girl she sees every day

    i came 2000+miles and she wouldnt drive 11 to come hang out with me and my friends

    so i stepped back and started cutting people from my life. why should i put effort in staying in contact wtih someone if they wont put any effort in
     
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  7. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    Do you think that more people will keep in touch now than they did years ago?
    I think that the problem may be that people have too many people to keep in touch with.
     
  8. lightgigantic Banned Banned

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    Zucchinis are like people.

    There are a lot of them and they look good but are they interesting? Maybe not.

    And really, how many do you want in your life? Not many probably.

    Yet in some ways zucchinis are not like people. For instance, they are peaceful and reliable and content... in the main.

    They are good listeners. They are trustworthy. They seem to have an attitude of "live and let live".

    They would make excellent friends were it not for the fact that they are... ZUCCHINIS.

    -Leunig
     
  9. Ambrose Mason Obsidian Gael Registered Senior Member

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    Short answer: Yes.

    Elaboration: Some people may lead much more hectic lives than others, and people will always come and go, but I personally do not befriend just any or every person as I like to try and keep dishonorable and flighty people out of my life as much as possible.
     
  10. Ambrose Mason Obsidian Gael Registered Senior Member

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    I like zucchinis. Grilled one on a skewer just minutes ago for lunch.
     
  11. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    Come to think of it.
    What would I do if I was still in touch with the people I knew at Uni years ago.
    The Lecturers?
    The awful places we found digs in?
    The music we listened to?
     
  12. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    You had one Zucchini for lunch??
    Just one?
    What is a Zucchini anyway?
    Specifically.

    If it's some kind of ox, that's a good meal, but I have an inkling it's a vegetable.
     
  13. darksidZz Valued Senior Member

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    This thread makes me sick, I wanna puke. Please stop this crap! LOL
     
  14. Ambrose Mason Obsidian Gael Registered Senior Member

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    Haha.
     
  15. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    She lashed out at me for 'not having a real job'.

    I hope she gets brutally beaten and sodomized.
     
  16. Ambrose Mason Obsidian Gael Registered Senior Member

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    Some people rather like being sodomized. Does she?
     
  17. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    I don't know...

    I shall change 'sodomized' to 'thrown into an industrial cutting device feet first' just in case.
     
  18. Ambrose Mason Obsidian Gael Registered Senior Member

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    I'm sure she'll like that discretion.

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  19. superstring01 Moderator

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    When I was a drug addict, I had a friend who constantly bailed me out. He was a great guy who really cared about me and inadvertently enabled me (though, never his intention). Years later, after I cleaned up my life, he wouldn't let go of all the bad things I had done.

    I told him that, were I him, I would have ended the friendship eons ago, but having come through that period, he had no choice but to forgive me. I could not wallow in pity, self-loathing or regret. I, too, had to move on and make something of my life. Even after my admonition, and heart-felt apologies, he kept dredging up the past and throwing it in my face. In the end, I had to end the friendship, which filled me with guilt but needed doing. Even at the end, he said, "I can't believe you're cutting me out of your life. . . after all I've done for you." My response was, "You're right. You should have never done those things, for which I am grateful. But, now that I'm better, you should rejoice that I'm a whole man again and not seek to tear me down. Instead, you constantly guilt-trip me and bring up my past in an attempt to make me constantly emotionally indebted to you. Sorry. Either forgive me and move on or we can't be friends."

    Looking back, I think me, getting better, made him insecure. My dependence on him was a source of security. My hunch was, that in becoming productive and independent, I was causing him to doubt his importance to me. But that's just a hunch.

    ~String
     
  20. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    What are Zucchinis???? I thought they were some kind of cucumber.
     
  21. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    Oh, so you're prejudiced against industrial cutting engineers.
    They are monsters are they?
     
  22. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    I should be more understanding, I know.

    She's mildly ASD, like me. She's very fixated and has a hard time changing her mental perspective on things.

    I don't want to, though.

    She could just use some fucking simple logic. It's not that hard. X = Y, Y = Z, therefore X = Z.

    I have a vicious animal in me that doesn't do forgiveness, and I kind of like that creature. She makes me lots of lovely adrenaline and dopamine, and she takes care of me when I'm hurt and angry.
     
  23. Ambrose Mason Obsidian Gael Registered Senior Member

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    Don't we all...
     

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