"A wonderful and fulfilling relationship takes patience. You must get to know your lover on deep levels and you must know each other mutually. Sometimes there are going to be people who don’t care to know you deeply. Sometimes it’s not mutual at all. You have to know each other’s expectations. Once you are in love with each other, you are one person, you are each other’s best friend. Forever." To read the rest: http://loganonlove.com/anchor/ Please tell me your thoughts. Thank you so much..
This doesn't match with the evidence I've seen. What you appear to be saying is that all the people who have ever divorced or split-up, whose divorce or split was not amicable, never really previously loved one another.
My corporate server won't let me navigate to that website, but I'm sure he's speaking subjectively, as well as in the moment. We all know that love is never guaranteed to last forever. The best you can do is try to make it the best relationship you're capable of, and of course that includes trying to make it last. But we're all human and we're all fallible and sometimes we just can't deliver on our promises, even our promises to ourselves. The test is to look back on a love that didn't last and see how you feel about it today. Not two weeks later when you're still hurting or angry, but after a year or two when you've got some happy new thing going. Is it a memory you cherish? Do you wish your ex-lover well? Did you learn something from the experience that helped you do it better the next time? The last real romance I had before I met the future Mrs. Fraggle was dynamite. Little duckies cavorting under a rainbow while bells were ringing. It lasted two years and then disintegrated, and neither of us could figure out why. We just wept and said goodbye. She vanished and none of our friends have any idea where she went, so I still don't know why. But something I got from that relationship helped me make the next one work. Mrs. Fraggle and I had our 35th anniversary last year: half of my life.
After 15 years of great times my ex decided that she wanted to find someone new so left me for another. Those were good years we spent building a home, cementing our relationship with times going places and doing things all over the world. Alas she must have seen greener fields on the other side of the fence so off she went with her new lover and are still together till this day and I'm stilll looking for someone to be with but find it difficult because I put to much trust into the old relationship just to watch it vanish away.
'Love' is one of the most research topics on the internet but it does not equate to 'forever', even when you find it, because 'forever' is conceptual in nature and our experiential existence is finite and so also the experience of 'love'. For many, the experience of being in love may last for the greater part of a lifetime, while for others, an apparently loving relationship can vanish, for no logical reason save that it has transferred to another or dissipated over time, often a mutual realization. Still, whether loves lingers or lasts but a while, it is an experience worth the knowing, for it truly is beyond compare. Sadly, if you have never known love, you won't have a clue what I am going on about, while if you have, you are either glowing in the experience thereof or a little wistful at the memory. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I am not saying that a couple divorced or split apart had never been in love, but if the love does not last, then it was never true romantic love. Love isn't guaranteed to last forever, but quite possible. I'm sure with a little insight from you, I could figure out why your previous relationship did not last. Finding true love isn't easy. It involves trial and error; heartbreak. Something so wonderful and amazing is not so easy to obtain. I know you will find someone, but you can't allow the past deter you from your future in seeking love. People love others forever all the time. Long after death and under any condition. It's a choice to stop loving a person. Sometimes, people can not help but to love. Love is spiritual. We can't see it unless it's shown, but we are always able to feel it when it is. Love is not very logical, it's far more emotional and chemically charged. There are logical reasons as to why love ends, and if deeply thought of, you could possibly figure what has connected you to someone so deeply. People are very complex. That's a significant part of being able to find true love. (Acknowledging your romantic needs) Thank you for the responses.
I support your continuing effort to understand something that you have little knowledge of. It may be helpful to try to focus on something else outside of you. (old Buddhist advice :itoldPlease Register or Log in to view the hidden image! If you can afford it, a few community college classes in basic psychology may be enlightening as well. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Whatever it is, it certainly has a strong hold. I smoke, drink and gamble, yet my wife still puts up with me. There's nothing logical about it.
How can you tell me that I know very little? You do not know what I know. Stoni. Focus on something outside of myself? Please explain. My opinions are based on psychoanalysis.. I can't begin to tell you how much I HAVE read on psychology. I have already taken the basic psychology course. My knowledge is based upon research and experiences.. Bowser, "puts up with you?" As if you are a bother? youreyes, read above. No.
Ah. So the "real" world is one where you retroactively decide who you love based on your subsequent experiences?
There have been people in my past I've loved dearly but didn't want to stay with. (And that's true romantic love.) I still do love them.
So you are still in love with those people? Why wouldn't you want to stay with someone you are in love with?
because he/she is not in love with those people, its an illusion a person makes to prove about the honesty of their feelings, meanwhile it was all a lie. But how sweet it is to say that nothing was wrong in those past relationships that it was indeed love, easier than to admit the truth. Much much easier.
Because we wanted different things out of life, or because they didn't want to be with me, or because they (or I) had problems that meant we couldn't be together. There are lots of reasons you can't always be with the people you're in love with.
There's much more to love than romance. Romance can exist between two people who don't even know each other well enough to judge whether they'll be able to stand each other once they're better acquainted. Certainly, when love blooms, it will bring with it a bit of romance, but it could be just literally "a bit." It might be a faint echo of the fireworks and sweetness you felt twenty or thirty years ago with that fabulous person who, you discovered to your dismay, couldn't hold a job for two months and never remembered to lock the door when going out. In a perfect world, I suppose that might be true. Let me know when you find it. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! There's an old Jewish proverb: A bird and a fish can fall in love... but where will they live?
