And if you can and I guess it's only because you never had the real thing or is it that you're just desperate with out any other options? I personly don't like this idea but I guess for many many people it's a solution to the failures of dating. I guess if you want something you can't get and is not available it will seem to make sense... Here is an article I found a little about it http://jezebel.com/5923836/when-it-comes-to-love-can-you-fake-it-til-you-make-it
I'm pretty sure you can fake love. Even for a long time. Sometimes relations are beneficial for both sides, and if only one is truly in love, the other one might want to show and act love, to keep the first one happy and the relation intact. Actually I don't even think this is very difficult, while the one "pretending" one has a true will to make the relation good and the other person happy. Question in return, isn't it very flattering to have someone who tries to give you much more than they naturally would? That they try to do this for you, to keep you happy and satisfied? Yes, it can disappoint, or even hurt. But the other view is, that you are given a big present, which you'd never get if you insist in "true love". Just never ask. Happily accept what your partner is bringing in - don't question them for "truth or fake". Otherwise you make two people unhappy, yourself and your partner.
You can accept to live a lie? So I assume you can stand a loveless relationship basically a fraud one and be with someone you don't love essentially deceiving them?
Even they don't love you , eventually living together respecting each other the love will be reciprocated to you .
I got married without any love for my wife . now after after living ( married ) for several years together I love her
Well you know what I realised there is a difference between loving someone and bieng in love with someone. In the end "Don't take life too seriously you won't come out of it alive". It's really funny to me and trust me I keep laughing about this were all gonna die but how many will die with a smile on there face. Isn't that the ultimate maybe maybe not. Death is peace embrace it. the punch line to all the pain in life were you essentially give the world the middle finger becuase you are no longer here and no longer need anything from it. Trust me, what is the alternative to death living hundreds of years which will be possible soon I believe the technology has gained so much progress we may live hundreds of years maybe even a thousand but how pathetic is living a thousand years of fraud? I much rather die at 60, in 20 years it may be possible to experince things that's would have been percieved to accur in 3 to 4 hundred years not much more to life or this planet.
Absolutely. It depends on the definition of love and expectation of what that will bring. Basically it comes down to trust, respect and compatibility. A dog with give you unconditioal love when he trust and respects you and most human love develops the same way. The fairy-tale ecstatic love is practically impossible as our desire for such love comes from our choice in the direction of greatest satisfaction, which can never be attained or enduringly kept. IMO, enduring love comes from being compatible in mind and filling each other's needs. The rule of *necessity and sufficiency* is the foundation of true love. The never ending desire in the direction of greatest satisfaction must be consciously controlled. But when your partner is compatible in mind, it makes filling each other's needs much easier.
