Everyday sexism

I get it James.

Demanding justice is not condoning.

Paddo may be evasive but I have made it entirely clear what I think such that I am surprised you still do not understand me at all.

Well I don't condone that at all.

I say that context must be considered...lots of old folk talk that way with no malice..that is what you need to take on board...if Paddo was here and he presents as you say to me I will rip him to pieces....you must appreciate, as I now do, that I came in at the tail end of something with a long history..all my concern turns on is making claims without evidence...and I have no doubt some ladies are offended, I get offended, ....

James a survey should not determine guilt in any way shape or form..the facts that pertain exclusively to the case in question is all that is relevant....

That is prompted by the fact you do not have evidence from the ladies in the bank...further your claims that lubricate is a sexual thing is not what I have found in my world..if you want to show Paddo was being sleazy you need more than your say so...that is the point and there is no other...you can not sentence someone for what you are thinking, actually not even for what they are thinking..now if you could show Paddo said in addition ..and I imagined pouring virgin olive oil over them and...whatever..it would be different..if he is that way he would not last with me but we can't go on what you think he is thinking.

If you establish sleasy behaviour I am on side and would not be gentle in the way I called it.

James that dictionary had one meaning ..it only dealt with sex..nothing about cars, machinery or booze..it is a shit dictionary and search as I did every other dictionary dealt with machinery, some with booze, ..I am afraid that dictionary can only appeal to sicko....why did it not have anything re machinery, why did it only deal with a sexual thing...my guess is popularised.. I can just see dirty minded little folk looking up words in that dictionary..it does not represent community dictionaries in the least.

Well I am doing my best to keep it rolling and somewhat playing the devils advocate given Paddo is gone but also injecting the notion that justice must be done fairly and not by survey or popular vote.
Your attitude is more like.. let's give him a fair trial and then we hang him...you can't get ahead of yourself and should focus on the fair trial bit not the hanging..bit..now you know me I am all for hanging wife bashers but after examining all the evidence...

Read the research which completely contradicts that view.
Honestly James think it thru...say we found Paddo with drugs in his possession...we would ask him why but at some point we would ask...where did you get these drugs...now my bet is he won't say I made them myself but be able to point to a source...these beliefs that women are inferior just don't book into a blokes head..think of an average life..not that there is one ..however..the kid goes to church learns good things but the fact women don't get a look in must leave some impression..add to that they may come across the quotes l posted or may have been at Mommy's side as the priest told Mommy to suck it up.think about that for more than the time it takes for you to ignore it...and why do you ignore so many established facts?..can you not just think about the proppsition rationally.. perhaps read the research..aquaint yourself with the reality that Jews and the church of England are happyly adjusting to the problem you say is naive and unsustainable
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Of course you can't but please bring evidence to support your 95% claim.

In fact tell us how you arrived at that figure..link the paper perhaps.

James you are a decent chap and I hope that after dealing with me you will see the need not to make wild claims that you can't support other than to say you found them in your personal reality.
You are wrong and the longer you take to conceed the sillier you look..your arguement has the sophistication of " tis so"
Then you put up a dictionary that only lists lubricate in reference to sex..honestly what will the audience think of you?

You are really grasping at straws...

Anyways I will think about all you have said and let us hope that passers by realise that they could do well to ask themselves if they are being unwittingly offensive, if they condemn folk without evidence and if their culture needs to be updated with the decent norms I think we both feel sound offensive, become common place.

I left the place. I found it hard enough to turn up but I will not be disrespected and left like a shag on a rock...I will now relax ...a whole day wasted...no lubrication in this state of mind.

So you don't feel bad..whether by design or accident both you and Bells are doing a wonderful job of providing a place to reach out to in these times...kicking you around I sadly find extremely satisfying ...and I forgot to buy guitar strings..honestly what is happening to me...keep up the good work.

Alex

 

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If anyone ever wonders why many women don't report accounts of sexual harassment, rape or any other sexual misconduct shortly after it's occurred or even at all - remember this thread. Women are often not believed because men excuse their behavior as jokes, and playfulness - or worse - they suggest that the women encouraged it, even liked it.

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This should be on the top of the page as a permanent reminder.

Threads like this normalize that sort of behavior, and men use the memes here to gaslight women*. "You're too sensitive." "I said that to XXX and she didn't mind." "I didn't mean it and therefore I am blameless; it's YOU who has the problem."

(* - The overarching issue is much larger than men vs women, but that's what this thread is about so that's what I am keeping it constrained to.)

 

Alex: Firstly thanks for your efforts, as futile as they may be. I first decided to take a look back yesterday and see what had transpired.
I was correct. The usual lies, slurs, and deliberate misinterpretations by two in particular...let's call them Trump and Gialiani, as in Donald and Rudy,
I am unable to think of a better annalogous example.
What prompted me into looking back was three incidents/happenings, that show up the lies that Donald and Rudy have continually presented.
The first of those....While having a beer at Easts with a mate, I approached one of the bar attendants that looked after us and kept us well lubricated
on our reunion. I mentioned the "lubricated bit that Donald continually lies about, and the casual everyday banter by herself and us blokes. She pissed herself laughing and
went on to say that the "fun police" are getting more and more desperate everyday. Then I asked her age. She replied 36 years old, and I then said, shit Luv, I told them you were in your twenties.
She then returned the compliment and said I look nowhere near 76 years old.
The second incident concerns the little Woolworths shop assistant and the extra virgin olive oil. After an absence
of a month or two, she has finally returned and over the last two weeks, I have always nodded to her when passing and her back..nothing said,just acknowledgemnt. Anyway on Thursday I see
this young assistant [who I didnt recognise] looking after the self service tellers. I went to one of the machines and while checking my groceries,she sidled up behind me [to use Rudy's misleading expression
and said, "Hi, how are you today?"I replied, "Pretty good luv, for an old bloke" she giggled and I further said, "but I hate wearing these bloody masks!"
She said, "yes that's why I am not wearing my glasses, they fog up all the time" I said, "Ahh that's why I didn't recognise you!'shelaughed. Masks are now compulsory.
Third incident was yesterday and gave me the idea of returning to mention these things. Same shop Woolworths, where some of the assistants know me by now...I decided to approach a supervisor...a female supervisor by the way, and explained briefly
that I had addressed the young assistant as Luv [ the supervisor was around 50ish] She seemed surprised and said that no one had complained. When I mentioned the excuse that Donald and Rudy continually raise re being afraid of losing their jobs etc, she said
"Havn't these people learnt that we have unions that most of our girls and guys are in? "Bloody fun police again!the same idiots are trying to change Australia day!!"
Just to be quite clear Alex with regards to the continuing lies from Donald and Rudy...I don't simply approach "young women" in fact one was at least my age...the one that said, "excuse me Luv, I only have one item, can I get in front of you?" There was no slap on the bum by me as Donald likes to fabricate...
It was me getting the slap on the bum by a blonde when much much younger....I don't find such casual banter as harmful, and the proof is evident everyday.
I actually regret needing to return to convey all this Alex, but thought it was necessary. Many other lies by both Donald and Rudy also, but too many to go into, suffice to say, that my beahviour will continue unabbated as described for one simple reason. Because it is common everyday banter without any malice.
My respect goes out to all I come in contact with, male and female, equally, although the female being different, actually probably get the better end of the stick with me standing up for them
on public transport etc.
You look after yourself Alex and really, don't be to concerned with the nonsense being purpetrated on this forum by Donald and Ruby. They have a fanatical caause or movement to uphold and are not being to successful in it being implemented. One thing I have picked up, is the terminology "fun police"love it!!
In essence though, I would say that Donald and Rudy to have one thing going for them. The many likes from dmoe!! you know, that bastion of reasonability, of honesty
of logic, of sensibility.
Sorry no emojis Alex, as I am doing this on word procesor and copy and pasting it in the forum...the least time I need to deal with these fools the better.
One thing in life I have learnt Alex, is that the extreme nonsense of the right, like the 'proud boys"and other right wing orginizations that the real Donald and Rudy push, are no better or no worse then the extreme leftish views being pushed here with regards to stupid inane political correctness terms etc.
One also needs to ask themselves [well at least Donald and Rudy] why the likes of Germaine Greer, Bettina Arndt and Ita Buttrose are now poo pooing the extreme feminazi's movement etc.
seeya Alex!!!

 

Silly me I was taken in by the title..Everyday Sexism.

Sorry I did not mean to spoil a great witch hunt.

Its about getting Paddo and we dont need solid evidence to do that.

Absolute rubbish.

If there was a double entendre James should be able to prove it and he cant..that is the fact... another fact is he ignores my effort to point to the common usage that I personally have experienced, he ignores Micks dictionary reference...and now you make the unsupported claim that I just dont know...er did you miss my two accounts of how the word is used? And does it not seem rather odd and indeed perverted that James' dictionary only mentions a sexual reference..nothing about machinery..nothing nothing nothing...could it be that the dictionary is worthless..as worthless as James mind reading attempts when carrying out his duty as fun police.

Get real..provide evidence or back down.

To be clear... if you make a claim as did James then back it up with more than dribble scrapped up from a dirty mind out of touch with reality...oh oh oh...I asked another person, a lady re lubricate ..wait rather than me tell you what she said lets get James with his mind reading ability to tell us...well my survey is growing..and its not looking good for professed mind readers.

All I can suggest is if one wants to make a claim that someone has certain thoughts then get some evidence is that unreasonable..well is it..I would like to hear your view of the requirement for evidence.

And yet my enquiry tells me that at least those folk follow the common usage definition as outlined in the dictionary Mick looked up...perhaps rather than say if you ask folk ...the best course would be to actually ask folk..that way we would know what they think wouldn't we?

How can you think that you can make such a sweeping unsupported statement and for one moment not be called out for talking thru your hat...my view is.. in your defence you are enabling me to point out the need for evidence and not to say stupid things.

So you are not on the side
fairness, the need of evidence, to address issues on a subjective basis, to avoid totalitarism, that there are many issues wherein women are not respected that must be addressed..that bullying and abuse is wrong, that one should not assert that they know what another is a thinking...that domestic violence needs more attention...

Oh of course your side is only about Paddo boy...thank goodness you dont dislike him and can still apply a high degree of rational thought to the issue..him I mean..the bastard.

I think it is clear that I am defending the right of folk not to be treated in line with what you think they are thinking..I call for the abolition of the fun police particularly their mind reading department...further I support that recognition must be extended to the actual reality and context of the usage you complain about...the fact is the practice is common... it does not matter to you... you want to ignore the common usage but clearly you dont get to places where it is normal..anyways if folk read what I have said I believe my rational fair approach will appeal to those happy to see a fair approach rather than employing the judgemental approach we see from you and James.

Already we have enough input to show that some people are concerned some are not..yet you demand that the views of others be ignored and that your morality or standard be the only standard that should prevail.....you clearly think you are somehow above these folk who carry on in their way and that they must bend to your morality...well what decent person would not tell you to take a flying leap and recognise that you have no right to tell anyone how they should act...now as I said I dont like being called love etc but I recognise that folk do this..and yes because it is common place that does actually give it authority over that which is not...the problem is you do not want to actually think about what I say because..well to you I am on the side of Paddo..that bastard.

This tells me you read my posts selectively..this practice leaves you ignoring what I have said and my comments upon the issue...I have repeatedly made statements that clearly show I understand what the issue is....I am not wasting my time going over it yet again... anyone who actually reads all I have said can only realise my position is not represented honestly by you...and hang the thread title lets get back to Paddo..that bastard.

What is so difficult for you to see the following.

A..the use of familiar talk upon a stranger is best avoided...I dont like it and have said so more than I can recall in this thread but you ignore that I have said so.

The problem is yours I state my position you at best ignore it.. at worse case you (..more James really..he does it all the time but is rather clumbsy) try and twist what I have said so as to give my words in some cases a meaning opppsite

B..the practise is perhaps entirely confined to old people...although where I buy my Kabab in Lismore the girl there calls me " darling" (and no I wont risk getting a bad kabab by pulling her up...she calls everyone darling ... ) is around 30 ..and life goes to go on without the mind reading fun police...

C..It has not been shown that such familar talk has any ingredient of malice.

D.. some areas the practice is very common place and in some areas the practice is non existent. You clearly have no experience in areas where the practice is common place..I can accept that..can you?

E..It can be reasonably safely assumed and I expect supported by research that old folk become entrenched in their habits.

Well most humans do but certainly old folk exhibit they are stuck in their ways and this fact would suggest that perhaps they could be treated somewhat differently because of age..different treatment due to age has precedent within the law given children under 8 can not be guilty of any crime..

From looking at myself I think I am fortunate because I " keep up with the times" but it was very difficult for me to to use email for example as I was used to writing letters on paper and mailing them..in law that was a big part of the day, picking up the mail from the post office, opening the mail, organising it for response and at the end of the day reading the letters of reply typed by the secretary correcting them or signing them folding them up and taking them all to the post office...all my working life..tell me it is easy to just change from that approach and habit...you see where I am going here...now if one is reasonable one could see that if someone has called others luv all their life..having learned that from mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles and the movies for all their lives is there no case for minding your own business and leaving them alone to live out their remaing decade with out being called bad and contributing to the evil in the world..particularly when the main culprits go un scrutinised even on what should be a progressive forum like this...the evil of the church is defended and yet these old folk are run down ...that seems very od and it should seem odd to any decent human.

I agree..I argue for evidence and against bullying, abuse, mind reading and inability to avoid an objective assessment where only subjectivity can see a fair go.

Paddo..that bastard.. we should not need evidence to hang him.

PARODY ALERT...

Who cares about anything Paddo says in his defence when we all know he is guilty.

Did you see what James said he was thinking...what a slease Paddo is thinking about vaginas and stuff..oh wait ..we dont know what Paddo was thinking but we know what James says he was thinking..what more do we need...

parody complete.


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To answer the question posed..what more do we need...more links to pointing out bad behaviour...more links does away with the need for actual evidence dont you know...sarcasm over.

 

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You got me there.

I dont know he holds no malice but oddly you do not know that he does have malice.

But of course we can mind read and seeing upon popular vote we all say he has malice then he is voted to have malice...you just dont get it do you...you can not hang someone just because you hate them...you still need evidence to support your claim.

He admits he can see the point but claims he is not guilty..if he thought it was wrong no doubt he would stop.

If you can show otherwise please do.

His contention is everything he has done is indeed without malice and if you want it otherwise and say that is a lie you need to prove it using some sort of evidence.

He claims no malice and as I can not prove otherwise that is why I can say..I dont know..which is what I should have said opposed to saying he has none..

I really dont know..but you dont win by default as you dont know either.

Because we do not know if he held malice or not.

He says none that is what you need to prove is wrong and avoid just making an unsupported judgement.

That would be fair.

You could be on your way...but I think he accepts it could harmful be but has yet to see that in anyone he has interacted with..so there is that difference..if it can be shown he was told by someone not to do it and he kept doing it to annoy them them I will go get my rope.

My claim is no wilder than many you have offerred.

Although I can happily agree that the abuse of women predates hollywood I can not agree that it predates religion...I can make a good case that when we look thru the bible the degrading of women is the unfortunate norm and to take any claim past there is really unnecessary given the church has been a mainstay of Western culture for 2000 plus years...if you want to deny that the bible treats woman badly go ahead but you would be very very very very wrong...and perhaps explain why no high positions are held by women in the church...to deny the church treats women as second class is just naive and ignoring the reality.

To deny the facts as I point out, present quotes and links suggests it is you who are taking the cop out.
I presume your failure to comment on the church can only mean one thing ... However we have the quotes, we have the research ..we have real evidence...face it.

You have yet to establish what you claim.

Everyone has the right to a fair trial.

That is who has the right to justice.
They are accused they have the right to justice..would you have it any other way.
And remember I do not believe you have established any of your claims against Paddo..if you had established them then I would not be saying over and over....
where is the evidence...I have evidence that the church had a lot to answer for yet you ignore it.
Funny you avoid evidence but using evidence we can find the truth..dont you think.

I am demanding justice and for that we really should have evidence which you dont have and forgive me if I ignore James and his mind reading thing.

It is clear he failed...he still insists on ignoring the evidence and testomony...

Seeing it is clear cut in your view why dont you present your case like I did earlier.
Take the worst case and show what Paddo did wrong and your evidence to rebute any claim he offers.

You take what you like but I think if passers by read all I have said it will be interpreted much different to the way you put...

It would be easy to take me seriously if you could focus on what I say and not let your hatred of Paddo blind you for the need of evidence, to accept the research that tells us the teaching of the church have been identified as at least a big part of the problem...such that other religions are taking steps to be decent.

Anyways it is I that point out that justice must be done, it is I that raise domestic violence and all others ignore it...it is I that have helped women find safety from abusive husbands and gotbinjuctions to keep them safe.. it is I that worked in the courts seeing day in day out the problem and reading the reports from councilling ( all parties with children were assessed by on staff councillors ) which first made me realise that religion is greatly to blame...it is not my imagination..folk just ignore the problem..as I said its like a drug that leaves you high but incapable of seeing the evil...look at you... no comment other than..oh no my father was a Catholic therefore all your research aint worth looking at...mmmm kinda not looking at the real problem...you think going after Paddo will hush up the churches roll...


The evidence shows the church tells women to suck it up and pray that god will stop the abuse or give the victim strength to endure... you ignore all of that... ..your father I can safely assume was a good and decent man and you are very lucky that the evil of the church did not rub off on him but it would be grave folly to think he was in any way representative of their teaching on how to regard a woman.

Thanks for giving me something to think about.

Alex

 

Folk who are over the top are losers..lieing to make your case is wrong..James is far from honest in his allegation re lubricbating but what nails him is his failure to back off when we have an entry in support as posted by Mick and my two examples, I have a third from a female...then he posts a definition which is only about sex..nothing about cars or machinery...the man is not genuine.

I hope you are well, I have some problems that are not fun to deal with but not complaing.

Keep safe.

Alex

 

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Except I'm not charged with sexual crimes, am I?

Na, hit the nail fair square on the head.

What you believe is your business, but it is factual, and of course none of your links say anything about casual banter like Luv as sexual assault, that view simply is a product of [as Alex rightly points out] a dirty mind.

Perhaps you need to try harder, but don't burst a blood vessel doing it.

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But not all hey? You need to do better again..

Except the one around 75ish hey! and the 50ish bank teller, hey...but mentioning them ruins your crusade doesn't it Bells...Never mind, Donald will be here later to support you.

My behaviour is normal and par for the course, and none of your business to boot.

And you come across as an embittered old woman.

On calling another man Luv, your correct, I don't do it as I am not gay...On the second re lubrication, sure1 many many times, but that also doesn't fit in with a fertile dirty mind does it?

Women are different the last time I looked.

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Yeah the former bastion and hero of the women's movement...thing is many support her

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PS; My Mrs thinks you are bloody crazy by the way, as she is now standing over my shoulder.

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[But that also puts a hole in your crusade, doesn't it?

Let's get it clear, and deflate the lies from Donald and Rudy...
I indulge in casual banter as listed, and will continue to do so, and the women of all age groups that I do interact with, also indulge in the same casual sort of casual banter, be they bar attendants, bank tellers, supervisors, casual women in check out lines, ambulance attendants, or police officers.
I suggest you and your kind, stop trying to ram your new age crap down mine and others throat.


Sorry again, just needed to correct some lies.

 

Hi Alex...Agreed and really its far more then the lubricating lie. I'm not sure how many times I have told him that it wasn't me slapping any blonde on the Bum when I was younger, it was her slapping me on the bum...but he continues to say what supports his crusade. And the extra virgin olive oil and young shop assistant...always guessing that I said it with a smirk and double meaning...The lies are continuious.

The thing is Alex, it won't change anything...society [and me with it] will continue as is and as I described. Yet these little piss ants continue on their crusade while real sexual assault continues and without comment.
Sorry I came back again, just needed to clear up the lies...having fun elsewhere, where thankfully, my time is not called upon as much, and I don't need to neglect other things.

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Mrs says I'm spending too much time with these idiots! And I have my little project in Fiji to keep tabs on!
Take it easy and Mick too [poor bastard locked up in Bali somewhere...gotta feel for him

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broken shoulder and all.

 

If you look at the research within the Woman and Religion thread you will find that the reasons given by actual victims are rather condeming for the church...their reason basically comes from not being treated well by the church...Anyways read it ..but if you don't read that research you can ignore it right? I would like you to read the research, watch the videos and then tell me it's threads like this that are the problem.

In this thread there is no evidence to back up any claim of misconduct and all allegations are clearly driven by a dislike for Paddo ( and myself it now seems) whilst ignoring that evidence is required.

What is the evidence against Paddo...do you know or in your effort to belong you really dont need evidence as what the others say is ok..you have faith right.

Look at Bells last disgusting attempt by calling Paddo "Harvey" ..pretty damn horrible when there is no evidence that one thing Paddo has been called out for is sinister..the guy that Bells referr3d to is a sex offender...do you think it is ok to call Paddo a sex offender...I don't know of any charges so really what entitles Bells to slander him in this way...this is a mindless witch hunt..particularly when I come along and say bullying and abuse is wrong...not a peep out of anyone.. I ask where is the evidence but no one has any other than dirty minded claims that Paddo means something dirty..now like it or not James is wrong..as proved over and over... he could offer evidence to support his claim but no just throw mud..Weggs that is wrong.
Bells and you just will not consider the research which points to very serious matters, matters that if addressed can only improve things for women...Then you all say that I for example don't see the problem...well I do and have since I was a kid and further later actually have acted to help which is more than any of you can say...no let's jump on old folk ...I hope it makes you feel as though you are contributing to a better world but in truth you are not..and you won't even read the research that clearly shows the church massively contributes to the problem...I don't know how you can justify your position but you seem to think the behaviour complained about is so much worse than the quotes of church leaders saying women are second class or the research that shows Christian men use the bible to justify bad behaviour which firstly you think does not occur and if it does that is not as bad as old folk calling folk luv etc..your views are out of wack.

Alex

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They are haters and often hate is driven by jealousy...I really think they are jealous...they clearly don't get out much, don't interact with folk at the shops, probably have never had a night at the pub...I posted a video which says folk like this create a reality that suits their beliefs and clearly, object as he does, James is a perfect fit for the stereotype in the video...look at the lubrication thing...and the definition he finds in some shit dictionary...it tells me every thing about the guy...Anyways it is clear that they have the mob here bullied into submission as no one has come forward to oppose them...they have probably tried in the past and now like me and presumably you say to themselves ...why bother with these folk they have no power to reason...they are brain dead....that is also covered in the video..folk like you and me will only be disappointed because we have a reasonable expectation that arguement will be logical and apparently that is a common feature that you won't get it from them..like don't tell us what you were thinking I know then accuse you of the filth they allow in their minds..look how I set out that I think this and that then you get a reply and it's like fuck don't they read anything?

My latest thing to present is the contribution of the church which given they make up a large part of our culture is worth taking into account....these ding bats won't read the research or admit that perhaps the stand of the church is way more serious than calling someone luv....but James can make stuff up..thats ok..
Bells referring to you as Harvey is just so wrong...you should sue her for defamation.

I am keeping notes don't worry.

Irrational misguided folk ..

Alex

 

No, because as I said, because both Trump and Guliani are known for their lying and distortion in the current situation and previously...just as you and James have done, and as you continue to do to support your little crusade/movement.
Wake up Rudy, this lying is not looking good for you or James.