no i wasn't. i was also on computers straight out of the womb. we were the first on the block to get one. i was painting with my daddy's laptop he brought home from work before he could figure out how to turn it on. anyhoo, it's all about attitude. if you think the internet is full of wierdos, it's probably cause you're sharing a seat with one. everyone is online now so everyone you might meet in the "conventional" ways are just as easily encountered here. there's this group of people i've shared forums with for years now and we all know each otherpretty well. it is no strange thing to get together to hang out in the village or go shopping or to the movies. one of them went to high school with my college roommate it turns out. we've actually run into each other out and about by accident cause we live so close.
Purely online relationships don't exist. Puppy love type games, maybe, but not real relationships. Chemistry, hormones, and pheromones are a very big part of relationships; we just don't like to admit it. Because we're supposed to be holier than animals, wherever that ridiculous concept came from.
The human chemistry is much more advanced than animal chemistry, other mammels usually sucret musks and what have you, the human brain makes possible a more sophisicated variety of chemicals, and even things like "hormones" and "pheronomes" are used much more to control "levels" and as homeostatis controls than "flirtation fluids". When it comes to our chemical and endocrine system we are light years ahead of our closest non-human relative. Of course "science" probably doesn't agree with me on this one but it doesn't always have the tools to "measure" things correctly.
i don't mind talking to people i don't know on the internet, but as far as forming a real relationship with someone, no. i have a few "buddies" i have met that live in like illinios and such, but i would never think to leave what i have here for someone i don't know.
I have a lot of first hand experience with this. I met my wife online. We had a 2 year long distance relationship before getting married. We met on a message board not to unlike this one. It started out with e-mails, then IM's. We were just friends at first. But we had a lot in common and our relationship grew enough that we developed enough trust to start talking to each other on the phone. Then from there we flew to see each for regular visits and long weekends together. We spent all of our holidays together. We wanted to be together sooner but financial and career related issues slowed us down moving in together. But eventually everything worked out with the distance thing and we moved in together. We're happily married now and had our first child in April. While we are very happy now, I will not pretend the distance was ever easy because it was not . It offered some real challenges to us. But all relationships have challenges. We just clicked so well and enjoyed being with each other so much it has proven to be well worth any sacrifices we made earlier on. If you had asked me before I met her, I would have told you there was no way in hell I would get involved with someone online or have a long distance relationship. I think it is just something you have to experience to understand. I definately think it would not work for everybody and if you do be really careful. We both got lucky, but there are a lot of crazies on the net. But it worked out for us and we're both really happy. In the end that's all that matters isn't it? Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
