im in a triangle! (relationship thread, do not read!)

Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by cthulhus slave, Dec 5, 2003.

  1. cthulhus slave evil servant Registered Senior Member

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    brooke is a friend of mine. ive always had a crush on brookes best friend katlin.
    yesterday brooke stumbles upon a detailed, bloody bdsm fantasy of me and katlin wich katlin had posted on some or other net board. originale reaction "awsome! a girl i like is having fantasies about me just like the onse im having of her! kool"
    now brooke and katlin hate eachother, because as it turns out brooke has a crush on me too.
    ive been in a triangle and never even knew it!

    i would love to use the opurtunity to ask a girl whom i like and i know likes me out on a date, but this would most likly devistate brooke and destroy our friendship as well as the remnants of the one she has with katlin.

    katlin doesnt know i know she and brooke like me, but brooke knows i know.

    its pathetic seeing such a great friendship as the one they had get destroyd, its not my fault but i feel like it is.

    if i did go out with katlin then things would change, wed change, and brake up. love neverlasts, but a great friendship does. and they had a great friendship. i would love to be katlins boyfriend, but id rather keep a wanderfull friendship between them than get a temporary relationship myself.

    gah, what to do, what to do!

    i know this is just more teenage mellow drama... and i realy dont want to see such great great friends get destroyd over this.

    reply, dont reply, i dont care. just felt like letting you all know about this ackword situation im stuck in.
     
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  3. sargentlard Save the whales motherfucker Valued Senior Member

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    Declare celibacy and move to Tibet and be a monk...easiest way out. No women, no talking, self exploration, possible utter nirvana. There is no downsides to that......think about it.

    Or get them together and talk it out......them monk idea, a lot more better IMO.
     
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  5. cthulhus slave evil servant Registered Senior Member

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    il definetly consider it sarg.
     
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  7. cthulhus slave evil servant Registered Senior Member

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    or i could just tell them im gay....
     
  8. Raha Registered Senior Member

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    Make a great part for you and the girls. Get drunk, get high, get wild. Fullfill Katlin's fantasies. You'll see.

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  9. BigBlueHead Great Tealnoggin! Registered Senior Member

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    Great Old One might not like you converting to another religion...

    I think he would be happier if you found a solution that involved a lot of bodily fluids.
     
  10. outlandish smoki'n....... Registered Senior Member

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    who do you like more? K or B
     
  11. BigBlueHead Great Tealnoggin! Registered Senior Member

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    She would probably just tell you she was gay too, then you would have to have sex with her.
     
  12. spidergoat pubic diorama Valued Senior Member

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    what's the problem, can't you have both? With bdsm fantisies floating around, suddenly you are monogamous? I don't understand that.
     
  13. cthulhus slave evil servant Registered Senior Member

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    b is a good friend of mine, though i am not atracted to her whatsoever romanticly or physicaly.
    k, on the other hand, ive had a duisgusting crush on for nearly a year.
    most definetly k.


    me niether, whats wrong with me?!
    read above ^

    .... no... he would not....
     
  14. outlandish smoki'n....... Registered Senior Member

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    cthulhus slave

    OK, so first let's get the facts straight:

    1) You like K, you now know that K likes you too.
    2) B likes you too, but the feelings are not recipricated.
    3) B stumlbes upon K's fantasy about you.
    4) B obviously took a kick in the ego, (and let me tell you girl's egos totally eclipse guys' when another girl is involved) and hence she's now obviously trying to cause friction between her and K.

    Now:

    the main thing is 1), this is the most important and relevant point.

    2) is the most irrelevant point in terms of any possible relationship between you and K, however 2) is causing knock-on effects.

    I don't see that much of a problem, you and K should get it on as soon as possible, then you should have a sit down with B and tell her that this is reality now, so she either get's used to it or she doesn't, either way you and K are an item, and make it clear that if she's going to be a child about it then you are quite prepared to kiss the friendship goodbye.

    capiche?

    but it all depends on how you handle the talk, do it very diplomatically, try and shift the burden of guilt to her, say things like "Don't you want us to be happy blah blah" corny stuff liek that and "I don't want our friendship to end, but if you found a guy that you really liked and I kicked up a fuss how would you feel" etc etc.
     
  15. Fraggle Rocker Staff Member

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    Love vs. friendship

    The three of you all know each other pretty well. Both of these girls like you, but they don't know it? Neither one ever told the other that she likes you? Then they don't have as tight a friendship as you think. This fight should have happened long ago, before you even knew they liked you.

    I wouldn't worry about destroying their friendship. It's not very strong and something else will soon come along to strain it if you don't. It won't stand up to very much stress.

    As for your friendship with the girls... You don't say how old you all are, but I'm guessing you're teenagers. I hate to sound like another old fart telling young people how their lives are going to turn out, but you need to hear this in order to avoid making a mistake. Friendships that people make when they are teenagers almost never last very far into adulthood. You're all going to continue growing and changing. Developing new interests, forming opinions about what's going on in the world, adopting political viewpoints, perhaps even moving away to go to different universities, to take a great job opportunity, or to explore the world. These things put tremendous stress on friendships. Not that it makes you enemies or anything, you'll just find yourselves spending less time together or even thinking about each other.

    So I wouldn't worry about destroying your friendship with the girls either. It would be nice if friendships lasted forever, but they almost never do.

    I managed to hang onto one high school buddy and several college friends through my first marriage and on into my thirties. But they all drifted away when I got married again. Even the new friends I had made at my job just vanished when I left to take a new job.

    My oldest friend, and actually just about my only close friend, is my wife of 27 years. I thank the goddess for her. I've learned to put my energy into maintaining that relationship. Even the best friendships don't last.
     
  16. cthulhus slave evil servant Registered Senior Member

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    good guess!

    thanks for the advice evryone, especialy you wraith.
    il try to follow it!


    oh yes, and an interesting devolpment! yesterday brooke's family all recieved death threats from katlin, while everyone else feels their is a new sycho in town i find it quite romantic.
    so... yah, going to go ask her out.
    if things work out, great! if they dont then she may kill me. iether way....
     
  17. firdroirich A friend of The Friends Registered Senior Member

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    Menage a trois? Take a leaf from the French, if you cant beat them , get more to join you!

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