Are you an introvert or extrovert?

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  1. wegs Matter & Pixie Dust Valued Senior Member

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    I like this simple poem, yet it saddens me that the writer feels the need to defend, being an introvert. As if we need ''fixing.''

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  3. parmalee peripatetic artisan Valued Senior Member

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    Thanks. I was for some reason under the impression that it would be a lot more involved.

    My mom is still alive, of course, it's just that she's always reminding me that she'll "soon" be dead. I'm 3000 miles away, while my sister lives only 20 miles from her. And unfortunately, I can't really trust my sister to "manage" much of anything.

    My mom is somewhat like me, but nowhere near as extreme. I'd prefer to be ground up and turned into fertilizer when I'm dead, but since that's (probably) not an option, I'll take whatever is closest. And funerals and crap like that mean absolutely nothing to me. Regardless, I don't like being disrespectful towards people, living or dead--unless I really can't stand them--and my mom is, at least, somewhat more conventional. So I figure I'll be doing some of that stuff.

    I'm just glad there's no religious component. I would do it if I had to, but, apparently, I'm not very good at masking my true feelings on matters.
     
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  5. Write4U Valued Senior Member

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    Lebanese-American writer and poet Kahlil Gibran wrote of struggles and insights many introverts will relate to.

    For introverts whose sweet solitude has soured into bitter loneliness:


    “Solitude has soft, silky hands, but with strong fingers it grasps the heart and makes it ache with sorrow.” ― Kahlil Gibran, The Broken Wings

    “In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things, does the heart find its morning and is refreshed.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

    For introverts who overthink and can’t let go:

    “Forgetfulness is a form of freedom.” ― Kahlil Gibran

    “And God said “Love Your Enemy,” and I obeyed him and loved myself.” ― Kahlil Gibran, The Broken Wings


    For introverts who are afraid to love again:

    “Darkness may hide the trees and the flowers from the eyes but it cannot hide love from the soul.” ― Khalil Gibran, Love Letters in the Sand: The Love Poems of Khalil Gibran

    “It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone… but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Kahlil Gibran

    “And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet


    For introverts who care too much what others think:

    Travel and tell no one, live a true love story and tell no one, live happily and tell no one, people ruin beautiful things.”― Kahlil Gibran

    For introverts who would rather be alone than endure mindless chatter:

    “I wash my hands of those who imagine chattering to be knowledge, silence to be ignorance, and affection to be art.” ― Kahlil Gibran

    “And in much of your talking, thinking is half murdered. For thought is a bird of space, that in a cage of words may indeed unfold its wings but cannot fly.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

    For introverts who feel guilty for asking for space:

    “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls… And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” ― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

    https://introvertspring.com/kahlil-gibran-quotes-love-loneliness/
     
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  7. Seattle Valued Senior Member

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    It's tough just because of the emotional component of losing your mom and having to balance what "society" expects. My mom wanted to know that everything was taken care of (I lived 3,000 miles away as well) so I flew home and took care of picking out the casket and things like that, at her request, while she was still alive.

    Just do whatever would please your mom when it's time and put up with the rest and at least you'll feel that you did your best.
     
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  8. Seattle Valued Senior Member

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    As you know and as you are implying with your comments, being an introvert doesn't define much about a person other than the recharging thing so there are timid introvert and bold introvert. There are introverts lacking in self-confidencce and those that are not.

    It's really doesn't tell you a lot about a person.
     
  9. wegs Matter & Pixie Dust Valued Senior Member

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    I think the poem though indicates that the author doesn’t like the words “coward” and “lonely” being used to describe “introvert.”
     
  10. Seattle Valued Senior Member

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    That's true but that wouldn't even occur to me unless someone brought it up. Does anyone think you are a coward? I don't think anyone has ever thought that about me (I have no way of knowing of course).
     
  11. wegs Matter & Pixie Dust Valued Senior Member

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    No...I didn’t write the poem lol
     
  12. Seattle Valued Senior Member

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    Too cowardly to write a poem, just as I'd expect from a introvert. Why do you hate sciforums...
     
  13. wegs Matter & Pixie Dust Valued Senior Member

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    You’re not an introvert ...you’re one of those internet bullies!
     
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  14. paddoboy Valued Senior Member

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  15. DaveC426913 Valued Senior Member

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    No single word does.
     
  16. Seattle Valued Senior Member

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    Not true. "Dave" would tell us a lot about you.

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  17. Bowser Namaste Valued Senior Member

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    I'm a bitrovert--I can swing either way.
     
  18. just me Registered Senior Member

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    as an introvert.
     
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  19. wegs Matter & Pixie Dust Valued Senior Member

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    So many of my extraverted friends are struggling with working from home. With Covid19, so many are working from home now but it doesn’t bother me. Sure, I like my office friendships and meeting with clients, but I’m also fine with Zoom calls. It has to be tough to be an extravert when it comes to not being able to recharge as you wish.

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  20. paddoboy Valued Senior Member

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    Interesting.....I'm quite OK with isolation, with the brief journey to the Supermarket....I love watching a good old movie...I'm experimenting with my cooking [some notable failures] reading a book at this time " Gravity's Fatal Attraction" by Mitch Begalman and Sir Martin Rees [second read btw]
    The Mrs when she finally retires [which due to a bad back could be anytime soon] finds it difficult, as do funnily enough, some other Fijians that I know. Perhaps because Fijians by nature and living in close proximity to each other in small villages, are a very gregarious race. It will be difficult for her.
     
  21. RainbowSingularity Valued Senior Member

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    being forced to change
    verses
    choosing to change
    verses
    compromising to agree TO change
    verses
    verses

    are you extra vert or ultra vert or minor vert
    or just extra

    compartmentalising social group normalisational habituation
    hhmm ...

    study them
    ask them all separately how they feel their self confidence has been effected by working from home
     
  22. kx000 Valued Senior Member

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    Both.
     
  23. wegs Matter & Pixie Dust Valued Senior Member

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    Not “change,” but recharge.
     

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