this is a very interesting concept your desires are ALWAYS your undoing, as they are most always the motivation for action. when that action has a negative outcome, you have been negatively impacted by your desire. the other question is about how you attempt to manage the issue from your Ego perspective. many people can only just lie to their ego and pretend that the experience was not negative. they layer lies upon other lies to try and fool themselves. anywho... if you think like some others, you use their flawed logic use your own logic be creative with a strong focus on fiscal prudence & minimalisation of risk to assets and savings. dare to invent yourself into a hobby but dont dare with your house car or retirement savings many ordinary people are trapped inside their own sense of ego so daring and risk involves challenging their own ego by the reputation their friends have of them they need to stay the same person or they lose personal self worth. such is the same for bad marriages. very very common i thought i better answer personally rather than muse your intellectual talking head of Freud Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!