Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by Muslim, Dec 13, 2009.
What's the place for a wife, in your opinion, mordea?
Which century are you living in?
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I can't help but agree. Why are you trying to hide your actions? Is your wife so unreasonable that she would not let you party or what? I can only suspect her reason for not letting you would be due to her believing you had intentions that she would not approve of? Is that the case..?
Otherwise I don't get people who lie when it's easier to tell the truth. And there is definitely nothing invasive about wanting to know where your fucking spouse is in the middle of the night... unless you have a very shitty and unintimate relationship.
Seriously? Man up, grow a sack. If she would leave you if she knew whatever you're hiding from her, then you're being too selfish. And if I went into detail how much I dislike that cowardly attitude of lying to those you supposedly love, I might be banned for flaming, or some nonsense.
If she doesn't leave you, then hey, you don't have to sneak around anymore.
So true. My blood boils when people lie to those they profess to like or love for no reason except fear of that person's response. That behavior is abhorrent because it means you are afraid of being serious and are trying to take the backdoor out of a relationship with someone. If you are going to break it off, then do it cleanly and honorably or not at all.
I get the impression that "Muslim" is in an unhappy, probably arranged, marriage. He also hasn't grown beyond the adolescent binge-drinking, partying phase of his life. Probably he was married off way too early. I pity his wife.
Try smoking a stick of dynamite...
She'll never see that coming.
You're probably just bad at lying, or at least she knows when you're lying. But for advice's sake, You could always do like I used to (still do) with my parents and tell the truth, but not go into details. Like if my mother asks what I did on a date I mention dinner and the movie, but leave out the more... intimate details.
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What happened to taking responsibility for your own actions?
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This guy is scandalous!
REPLY: What planet are you from my friend ? It seems me and the people I know are very different from you. Those of us who made the mistake of marrying realized it soon enough and got real about it. You go screw who ever you see fit to and I will do the same. The things that hold marriages such as mine together are shared financial interests, a genuine like for each other, that all too soon does not include a sexual attraction for each other. We share laughs about most anything, but the sexual desire is no longer there. I am fortunate to have a new beautiful young woman in my life. I doubt it will last much longer, it never does for me. She will grow tired of me. I have money but so do other younger, more attractive men. I hope we will still be able to share our PRIMAL THERAPY PARTNERSHIP. I think that is good reason for a lasting relationship. This, of course would include some sex, we do have incredible times together, at least I know I do. Whatever, fellowtraveler
wow people got fired up and jumped to conclusions extremely quickly here.
i'd talk to her and try and make compromises. what you should do depends on what you want to get from the marriage. i'd want intimacy and honesty, so i'd want her to be cool with me going out.
In servitude to her husband.
I'm guessing you don't have a wife, then, unless perhaps you live in some backwards nation governed according to outdated religious laws.
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Firstly I am not going to be having sex with someone else, I've tried talking to her she pulls the who Islamic nonsense out, how that I should not be drinking, Islam bans anything you can get a slight enjoyment out, it even has laws governing on how to have sex with your wife, me being an atheist I am getting sick of this, I've told her loads of times I don't believe in a god, she thinks its a "phase" I can't go out with my friends, she always has to be hugging/cuddling me I need some time alone also, sometimes I want to stay up all night and watch the snooker and then sleep all morning, but she has to wake me up 9am in the morning, and she makes me drink water first thing in the morning, I'm not allowed to skip breakfast, I'm a man I need to do things on my own I do love her I really do, but sometimes she can be so moody,
Marriage is an institution.
And who wants to live in an institution?
best reply yet.
or even better, do her a favor and devorce her, then you can do as you like..
Maybe you should point out that the Koran promotes a husband beating his disobedient wife? She should be praising her lucky stars that you aren't an Islamic purist.
If you are my son in law or my brother in law all you get is this :
i'd suggest you replace tough titty with "your wife is going to be really upset with you". the consequences of this depends on the wife.
if you prevent your wife from going out partying and lying to you, are you exercising absolute and complete control over your wife?
so a wife no right to affect what you do and should be completely dedicated. what's the husband's role? what's the point of marriage in your opinion? have your strategies worked in your own relationships?
this is directed at muslim, i think you should talk to your wife about your concerns. they sound reasonable and similar to concerns many boyfriends/husbands have. its tough that she considers your atheism a phase, but she needs to respect your opinion.
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