So she's going to be upset? Big deal. What is she going to do about it? If you *prevent* someone from doing something, then obviously you are impinging on their free will and are therefore exercising some level of control over them. She can politely suggest and request, but at the end of the day the decision rests with Muslim. The notion that the wife is allowed to 'control' the husband is absurd, something I'd expect from pussy whipped men in the West. Better to cut your balls off and live as an eunuch than become a bitch to your 'significant other'. As the leader, guider and doer. Men tend to be more strong-willed, ambitious, egotistical, resourceful and quick thinking than women. The man guides and leads, the woman follows, supports, and has the man's back. And yes, it works in my own relationships.