Tiassa:
Thank you for your thoughtful response. It wasn't exactly a response to the specific question I asked, regarding a "reality check". However, it can be useful from time to time to reflect on one's posting style and how it comes across to different people.
I feel like any response to your post will seem like I'm trying to defend myself against attacks on my character. I don't think I need to do that. However, I would like to post some thoughts.
James, I've noted for years that you are difficult to talk to.
That may well be
your perception. We have, at times, clashed.
One thing you (and other readers) might have noticed over time is that I become less "easy to talk to" the more the people who are trying to talk to me fail to observe basic human courtesies. For some reason, people on this forum sometimes seem to forget they are talking to another human being. Instead, they see only an opponent who needs to be "brought down" in some way. It tends to get worse when people run out of discussion points on a topic of dispute. That's when some of them start going for the
ad hominem attacks, imagining for some reason that nobody will notice the loss of any on-topic point of discussion. Their aim becomes to try to hurt, belittle, provoke, or ridicule the other person, instead.
I am not well disposed towards humouring people who feel entitled, for some reason, to try to bully others. I never have been. I tend to want to stand up to bullies. I also don't have much patience for arrogance, especially when it has nothing to back it up, in terms of expertise or other "scores on the board".
In real life, a normal response to outright rudeness would be to remove oneself from the unpleasant person who is exhibiting that rudeness. In some circumstances, it would also be appropriate to call out the rudeness. On an internet forum like this one, however, it is harder to remove oneself from unpleasant people. They tend to want to put themselves in your face. I think that often it is because they are insecure in themselves - perhaps just regarding some particular topic of expertise, or perhaps more generally. They feel like they can have a "win" by establishing some kind of bully power dynamic over somebody else on an internet forum. One problem with that is that these people seem to think that if one leaves a discussion/argument with them, they have somehow "won" by default.
You might notice a pattern in my responses to such people, if you follow my posts closely. My default is that I am very easy to talk to. I am helpful. I like to share my knowledge with others. However, when things get nasty, I become less giving in my responses, which no doubt comes across as more terse. I also will sometimes remind people about how normal, polite and respectful, human beings talk to one another. My hope is that this can be a learning experience for some people who either never learned those skills in the first place, or else conveniently leave them behind when they are on the internet. I can understand that, at such times, I can become "difficult to talk to". The difficulty is mostly encountered by those who lack the presence of mind to pull themselves out of the "combat mode" they got themselves into, to start to act like a normal, decent human being.
Your posture vis à vis Arfa Brane reminds me of your puffy, sneering disdain for religion.
That's emotive language. We could have a more useful discussion about the reasons I might "disdain" certain aspects of religion, if you were interested. However, you ought to be aware that I have no automatic disdain for people who are religious. Believing in God doesn't automatically make somebody a bad person, any more than believing in lots of other things that may or may not turn out to be true.
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Not subtle: Here is a problem with your stylistic approach. Look to your response at
#215↑: "I note that you have now made a serious accusation against me: that I engage in corrupt practices in relation to science, in some way. I now ask you to provide at least one example of my corrupt scientific practices, or else withdraw your unfounded (and unfriendly) accusation and apologise to me." What Motor Daddy actually
said↑ was, that you are "a great example of corruption in science", further clarifying, "Corrupt Morons abusing their position of power for personal gain." The thing is, whether you are "a great example of corruption in science" seems more a matter of priorities; the line about corrupt morons abusing power for personal reasons, though, is within the pale.¹
He should have stuck to accusing me of abusing my position as a moderator of this forum. As you say,
that would be fair game. As moderators, we can expect that kind of criticism from time to time, even if it is baseless or misguided. However, to make the more general accusation that I am "corrupt" in general - or at least in matters of "science" - is a larger matter.
I should point out that, if somebody is going to make
either of those accusations (against
anyone), they should have the common decency to present a supporting case for their view, which ought to be objective and evidence-based. Otherwise, it's just rudeness - insults for insults sake. It can also be an attempt to bully.
In Motor Daddy's particular case, I was extraordinarily patient with him over a long period of time, and also probably too tolerant in the past of his trolling ways. If there was any "abuse" of my position as a moderator, regarding him, it must have worked in his favour.