Love

Discussion in 'Human Science' started by Mandana, Jul 23, 2010.

  1. Syzygys As a mother, I am telling you Valued Senior Member

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    Naked. Usually just showing up does the trick though...
     
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  3. Mandana Registered Senior Member

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    Honestly I can... I may be wrong but I'm totally honest!

    Actually he hasn't told me much about himself.Almost all I know about him is the information I have gethered about him through the years first by curosity, then because I liked him and eventually because I loved him.Our story is so complicated I know. Once we used to live in the same town, then it happened that we live far apart.I don't seek to justify my feelings though, I have questioned them already a thousand times... but my feelings are always there, whether I like them, oppose them or ignore them.

    Not yet!

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    The choice for science forum.. well this is a masculine psychology question in origin, and also those here on sci forums usually have the best answers!

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    Personally I'm afraid to be direct.Thanks for your advice and yes you can't make anyone love you, absolutely true I think.

    For letting me know... Subtly... and romantic!
     
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  5. Anti-Flag Pun intended Registered Senior Member

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    I don't know about saying "love" but being direct and saying "I have feelings for you" is far better than being subtle or ignoring things. I got the impression they'd known each other longer than a few days, and she did say she knows him quite well, although that could be subjective.

    You never know, he might secretly be feeling the same way. Or she could be a slightly obsessive nutter.
     
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  7. Skeptical Registered Senior Member

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    Too direct is a recipe for getting hurt.

    All guys are different, and this guy may respond to a very direct approach in several different ways. He may cut and run. He may decide to exploit you for sex. He may treat you with contempt. Or he may decide to give love a go. The latter is not necessarily the most likely. As I said - a recipe for getting hurt.

    A bit of subtlety is better. Show friendliness and hope it goes from there. Make yourself look good, and he may get interested.
     
  8. Anti-Flag Pun intended Registered Senior Member

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    We have the best science answers, I'm not sure there are many people here who are experts on love!
    I don't think anybody isn't afraid to be direct with these things as there are many undesirable outcomes, but often being subtle doesn't get the message across, and more than that it doesn't get you an obvious, open and honest reply - which is what you need to hear to know whether or not you have a future with him and to allow you to move on(should you have to).
    Don't say "love", but make it clear you have feelings beyond normal friendship and desire spending time getting to know him deeply. Think carefully what to say so that it doesn't sound creepy, but that the message is still clear. Be brave, and be prepared incase it doesn't go the way you would like.
     
  9. Emil Valued Senior Member

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    Mandana,

    I believe that true love is the most beautiful human feelings.
    But a lot are not able to love.They do not understand what it means to love or to love is another meaning for many.
    Are many who never knew love because it was forbidden love and her husband was elected by parents.

    As a practical advice.
    Says nothing about your love but behave so that he believe,he has the initiative.
    How to behave? Here I can not help you.Women have their particular methods.
     
  10. Bebelina kospla.com Valued Senior Member

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    I think you are in love with a fantasy, you will never get him.

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  11. Bells Staff Member

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    Hmmm which do you think it is by this response?

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    Sooo... Because you love him, you chose to dig through the internet (I am assuming) and find out what you could about it from such external sources, rather than talk to him and ask him directly about himself? Aside from confirming why people should not disclose too much information about themselves on the internet or make such information available on sites like Facebook, etc, you don't find this particularly strange?

    Tell me, is this person famous? Because at the moment, I am getting the distinct impression of the whole 'I'm your number one fan' thing from this saga.
     
  12. Anti-Flag Pun intended Registered Senior Member

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    Well, it would have been impolite to advise she gets several cats....
     
  13. Mandana Registered Senior Member

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    Direct or subtle, that is the question! Thanks for all your responses.. I need to think. I'm ready for whatever his response might be though, I can't bear keeping this secret anymore.

    This sounds like a great way!

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    It happened so naturally for me... and at first I only wanted to get to know him by curosity. I got the information through internet and through other channels also.It sounds strange though, even crazy, for myself also. He is known in certain fields of his activity. He is famous or not? Yes and no... he has fans but he doesn't have for example a " wikipedia page ". He is more or less known among certain people.
     
  14. PsychoTropicPuppy Bittersweet life? Valued Senior Member

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    Have you already skyped with each others? (cam) You collected information about him over the years in spite of the fact that he apparently didn't tell you much about himself? Wow..are you stalking him?

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  15. Trooper Secular Sanity Valued Senior Member

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    Why did you ask this question on a science forum? Hmmm…Is it someone on this forum? :scratchin:
     
  16. Emil Valued Senior Member

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    You're someone?

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  17. Trooper Secular Sanity Valued Senior Member

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    Insightful...:bravo:
     
  18. Mandana Registered Senior Member

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    We haven't talked on skype. We are friends and we talk outside skype and webcams.I'm not sure how it's possible to take the friendship to another level without scaring him away or sounding awkward, any ideas?

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    It's been quite a long time that we know each other but it isn't long since we are a bit closer... I long to know him more, his personality and his works interest me a lot (he's an artist).

    It would be good if he was maybe... maybe he would guess!

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