My mate has mental problems. Please post serious advice.

So he already has obsessive compulsive disorder, and now some other fucking crap on top of it. He won't tell me exactly what's wrong, only that he has these impulses and thoughts, and that it's "really sick shit, like a whole other me".

I tried explaining that this shit is normal. Like for example when you say you want to kill someone when you're angry, you most likely would never actually do it, it's just hyperbole, or your brain is showing its anger via symbolism. He said, no, it's worse than just that. He refuses to tell me more, saying he doesn't want to indulge that part of himself because he might lose control. He feels it's something he should fight his way through by himself. He wants help and understanding, someone to listen to him, but then doesn't feel able to tell me all the facts.

I don't want to boss him around. I'd yell at him to get himself diagnosed, but that would alienate him, and the one thing someone with a fragile mind doesn't need is to lose contact with other people close to him.

Advice?

 

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mlti personality disorders? bipolar'? umm.. aggressive something...there are alt of things out there, what if u suggest both seeing a councilor? that way you both are around and can talk about thigs

 

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Any mental disorder should be checked by a specialist in the field of medicine . Mental disorders are complex and need some specific therapy including meds when necessary .

 

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mine is not complex..just the names and remembering whaqt is wrong is

 

Sick sh*t? Hmmm...sexual impulses for something that would be considered in the given society as immoral?
Oh..forgot about the advice thingy..ehm..it seems like he's too ashamed of his issue because it's a sick issue like that, and therefore denies any surrounding help. He probably doesn't want to tell it to anyone because he's scared of their reactions, scared to scare his friends because his issue is sick like that. What can we do with him? He should go see a psyche reader, and get this checked, and resolved before his impulses take over..etc. I mean..what if he loses control over himself and sets these impulses free? How can he be sure to master it himself?

 

ditto

 

Sounds like he's traumatised in some way, and it's really messing him up. Just be there for him and make sure he knows it, if he isn't ready or willing to seek professional help then don't push him.

 

1) take care of yourself - make sure you feel safe around this person. 2) don't think too much about how to be around the person with problems, but rather just be yourself. Expect respect and give respect. You are not a therapist, psychiatrist, etc. So, be with a friend as you'd be with a friend.

 

Well my first concern if for your well being. It sounds like your partner/friend is deeply disturbed and potentially dangerous. You may be in danger, so my advice to you is to be careful.

Professional help is good if you can get it. But from what you have written, he may not trust a professional and may not participate. You cannot force him to trust you with his secret, and perhaps it is best if you did not know. You may want to encourage him to see a Catholic Priest, they are known not to divulge confessions.

But my first concern would be for your well being and safety.

 

Get him to a counselor, If you are truly concerned about his well being. There is no stigma attached to it.
Perhaps get him to put his feelings on paper, or in a journal.

 

Considering your reservations to confront him, I guess the only thing left to do is to wait for him to feel comfortable to tell you on his own.
Just be supportive. You can kindly suggest that he sees a specialist though, right?

 

Do not push him until he hangs himself or hangs somebody else.......:shrug: .

 

very true.

 

I've tried suggesting that he write the shit down, so he won't have to go through the process of describing it all more than once, and give it to a professional. He doesn't want to, though.

I guess Enmos is right and the best thing is to wait for him to tell me on his own...I can't exactly force him to go get help.

 

If you push someone into something they are not ready or willing to participate in then it WILL make things worse. If he's going to hang himself or anyone else then a counselor is not going to miraculously cure him.

 

sounds like multipersonality issue

 

If you care about someone you have to push him or her for their own benefits . I knew a person who had a son and his son did not want to go to a psychiatrist. I conceived his father to take him . The father started convincing his son to go . Finally he saw a neurologist and not a psychiatrist who ordered meds for him . Now he is about 75% better . what a difference here !! .

 

Not push, suggest, and if they refuse then accept it and be patient. I'm not going to trade anecdotal evidence or we'll be here all day and miss the point.

In VI's case we're dealing with someone who knows there are people to help him and doesn't want to seek them, but has chosen VI as someone he trusts and confides in, so you have to question WHY he did that. The worst thing she can do is break that trust or (as she said) alienate him in any way. Judging from VI's posts she has already suggested to him she thinks it's best he sees someone and he's refused. So let the subject drop.
He obviously is not ready and willing to seek proper help right now. So the best thing to do is be there for him so he knows he isn't alone, be patient, listen, and wait for him to be ready to seek help. Pressuring someone into talking about those problems when they are not ready to share is going to cause trouble.

 

You can't do anything for him unless he wants help. The risk is that if his "disorder" progresses, he might attain some kind of permanent damage and / or become a risk to you.

 

Any evidence of him developing heightened senses...hearing, scent, vision???

He may be turning into a werewolf!

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Seriously VI, nobody here can help you...and you cant help him unless he is willing.