No, I was just limited on time. Only got to the first point. You are talking about the person defining themselves by their situation. I am talking about how others define the person. When I went to look for an apartment, the landlord did not not ask whether I had a spouse and how could I afford this place without a guarantor. When my wife did (before I came along) they did ask her. That's not my wife defining herself as a single parent; that's the landlord doing so. And was invisible to me because I am privileged to have people simply assume that - as a male - I have a steady and sufficient income. I can present a dozen such cases, over an array of privileges (sex, orientation, gender, colour, age, wealth, etc.) if you want. Suffice to say there is nothing specious about this anecdote.