There are two aspects to this and one is the common sense approach while still respecting other's rights to their own gender identity. Until one has gone through the sex change, people should have to use the facilities based on physical gender. This is for the safety and deterrant of abuse or exploitation of the gender issue. Any decent person should be able to understand that even if one is sincere, there will be others who will or could use it as a disguise or ruse to be peeping toms or trying to gain access to children. There was a situation at a shelter where this man dressed mostly in women's clothes who demanded to be able to use the women's showers. Come to find out he was not really transgender but was making very sexist come-ons to women and was heterosexual. Now, one woman made a huge fuss about it and there were some who accused her of discrimination before they realized what he was really up to or about. They made the right call in the practical sense that you use the facilities of your physical gender. Until you put your money where your mouth is and go through with the gender change, these situations can occur. However, i think what some may be upset about is that you are not acknowledging there are people who are born feeling trapped with the wrong physical gender and to tell such people they are not what they truly identify as is painful because they are not acknowledged or validated. That is not really for you to say because you dont know how they feel. But how society handles it in a practical sense may have to be different and even transgenders will have to do some adjusting because it is not all about them and their rights but everyone's and yes, including them. Society should acknowledge their rights and make accommodations as is needed and appropriate but still consider the ramifications to others as it is more complex. You seem to not be compromising at all as to what gender identity is mentally, emotionally and sociologically though. That's the issue it seems some might have with your views.