Nope. I've been celibate for times in my life when I would have preferred to have sex; I've never been an incel. Agreed. It is just something incels discuss. Nope. Decency and "being good" are not opposites. Nope. You don't have to do that. (I never have.) Again, no. Aggression (or the lack thereof) is not inherently good or bad. Aggression to get your diploma, or come in first in a triathalon, or to protect those you love, are good things; aggression to commit crimes is a bad thing. Context matters. None. But since you think most people are boring and you don't want such people, then you are better off with no women approaching you. You have some very, very strange ideas about what women "ought" to be. It is good most people don't think like you. So in other words, they are just like you. Nope. No one will shame you for lusting after someone. Of course, if you are a dick about it, or you stalk her, or you start obsessing over her in public, then you will rightly be labeled a bad person. Again, no one will tell you that if you're not a creep. However, if you treat women like you suggest you do on this forum, then they would be right in calling you a creep. Who is this "audience" whose praise you so desperately crave? You could not conceive how a woman could be attracted to an old guy and a healthy, vibrant guy at the same time. I gave you an example of how that can indeed happen. Immature women are not in the minority in the group of women you know, perhaps.