my chart does not have the most powerful psychic placements or aspects. there are others out there that do. let's put it this way, there are people out there that are powerfully psychic and utilize it all the time, that don't even realize or acknowledge it consciously. but i do have several psychic aspects, especially visually and through dreams, in my chart. the vision of my soulmate from the astral level extending his hand down to me after my son was born looks similar to the guy i have described in synastry. i noticed it because of the similarity. this is key: not exactly or exactly like him, but very similar. again: patterning/similarity and therefore, sympathy/empathy/connection due to similarity when you come across such people etc. my son has moon square my saturn and depending on degree (which determines interpretation for this aspect) and which applies to the synastry between me and my son is that denotes that the saturn person will be so wrapped up in career, they have little time to devote to home. but in my case, it wasn't that i was wrapped up in my career, it was i literally was away many times with deployments and it hurt very much. i didn't want to be away from my son and even when i wasn't, it was hard to provide security to the both of us, even when i let it go. later when i did have the security and money, it was the wrong timing as he was already settled, secure and had his friends etc and it was not good to displace him from his life etc. those were the issues creating this square/problem. that's the thing about synastry as it's based on a web of society so even if you think you can overcome it, outside forces will intervene then to make it so. you think you have choices but only to some degree and only if you have knowledge beforehand. that's what i love about astrology because knowledge is power and the more you know about interrelationship charts as well as your own, you can modify or be forewarned about some things that you may be able to change. there is some pattern or similarity in charts and synastry with all soulmates, no matter blood-kin or not. for instance, both my son and him have mars square saturn in natal. i also have that with both in synastry. this doesn't necessarily show up just because you have that in natal or with everyone that is close to you, but it's just in contextual reference another similarity in pattern. the guy (not my son) i have going both ways as well as moon square saturn both ways. i thought it was just his saturn conjuncting my moon and mars but because his saturn square mars and his moon trines my mars, his moon squares my saturn. my mars also square his saturn. this is very rare to have almost all aspects double whammy and these two are some of the harshest separating aspects between people that don't care for each-other but between people that do, it's a struggle to be together. the double-whammy means an understanding that both know and accept they can't be with eachother. there is total, unequivocal equal understanding so no one is pining for the other. neither wants to cause the other pain. the double valentines and moon trine venus three-way denote unconditional love to bypass these issues. the many 12th house placements is a deep, psychic and even astral connection. it's a beautiful synastry but still it's denoting a pattern, not necessarily that they are the real 'one' for you but very similar. that's quite intriguing in itself. his saturn also trines my sun which can be kind of controlling even for a trine coming from a male but it's beautifully balanced with my saturn conjunct his venus which falls into my 12th house. his sun trines my sun (basic understanding), his sun trines my moon and that's balanced but not too oppressive as yin and yang as the male as leader and the woman as more submissive and supportive. i need to stress how unlikely and rare it is to have a moon 'trine' venus going not only both ways but also in composite. it can show up one-way but if it's both ways, it's usually not mutual as in perhaps a conjunction, square, opposition, sesiquadrate, semi-sextile, sextile, quincunx or a random mix etc but for it to be trine all the way, is miraculous. this is the 'i love you no matter what or what happens between us, because we probably will end up separated in the future and i forgive you and sealed with eachother's blood' aspect once you get to know the person. that and the unconditional valentines on eachothers's node going not only one way but both ways? the nodes indicate far-reaching love, also. this is a romeo and juliet type synastry. that saying that you know who your true friends (soulmates) when times are tough is ubiquitous with venus sextile/especially trine/conjunct saturn. these are the ones that will come through for you or have your back when the going gets tough and everyone else has abandoned you. opposition/square not so much as that is going into enemy territory (usually). the one for you will not be just similar to another, but be be exquisitely, down to the nuance, to be your soulmate/other half. there are no words to describe this as only your own consciousness, heart and soul will know and be able to detect the difference. love as well as the heart/soul is that unique and complex. no one can definitely determine it's infinite complexity, just point you in the right or general direction.