It's like stress. Stress is worrying about something when you can't do anything about it. If you can and do, do something, about it...it's not so stressful. If you come home on Friday evening and worry all weekend about what your boss said, about your work that is piling up, about all the layoffs that have been occurring, that causes stress but it isn't helping you in any way. Enjoy your weekend and talk to your boss on Monday, catch up on your work, rework your resume, etc. Worry doesn't help you in any way. Another example, let's say you are single and as someone who knows all and sees all Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! I know that you will always be single. Is it better to focus on being unhappy and lonely for the rest of your life or to focus on other things that do bring you happiness, fulfillment, etc. that you have more control over. If you end up in jail (always a possibility Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! ) for life, being a stoic might be the more fulfilling choice. It doesn't mean that you have to repress your feelings. You are adding that requirement where it doesn't need to exist. Do tibi intelligere?