http://www.livescience.com/culture/080902-face-parents.html "Men like women who resemble dear old mom, and women like men who look like dear old dad, a computer analysis now shows. Scientists in Hungary investigated 52 university students and their parents. They also looked at the significant others of the volunteers and the parents of these significant others, for 312 faces total. The computer analysis of the volunteers' faces revealed that women often resembled their male partner's mother, a finding echoing psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud's legendary "Oedipus complex." This proved especially true when it came to aspects of the lower face, such as lips and jaws. There were also significant resemblances between men and their female partner's father, echoing the "Electra complex." This was especially true when it came to proportions of the center of the face, such as how far apart the eyes were or the size of the nose."
Interesting, tho not really surprising. There is/was even a song written long ago: "I want to marry a girl just like the girl who married dear old dad." I didn't say it was a good song. I wonder if gay folks are drawn to their parents as well; women to mom and men to dad.:shrug:
Well, they all ACT like they're your mother, why not look like her too? What's bad is when they're as OLD as your mother. Badump, psshhhh!
Mine doesn't. Casting back over the years, one did. She wasn't my favorite, though. I think there may be a community bias in there somewhere. On the other hand, one of my brothers married a woman of another race, and when we met her one of my sisters pointed out that she looked a lot like our mom, barring skin color. It was kind of funny - he hadn't noticed. It's even more disturbing when you look in the mirror and realize that you look like your parent used to. So your spouse is actually attracted to your parent, now.
I married a man that reminds my family of my Dad (in looks) My Dad was a huge broad chested man and so is my hubby. I can see why people would go with someone who looks like a parent. It feels familiar and safe.
As far as I'm aware, all my serious 'women' ( about 5) have been the antithesis of my mother..and she didn't like one of 'em!
heres a question for you orleander if its because they make you feel safe then why do people who have been abused by there parents still chose people similar to them?
it's not a conscious choice. When you meet somebody new they automatically fit into whatever category you've got. The categories will create from experience. Sometimes I meet someone new, that looks and acts like an old friend and they will - in a way - embody my old friend until I get to know them better. I will treat them like that old friend. Because in my mind, they are almost the same person. Until eventually I know them well enough for them to establish their own category in my brain.
Its like when children of alcoholics marry alcoholics. Its what's familiar to them. Its what they know. Its that abused woman who goes with the same kind of abusive man over and over. Its like S&D said, its not conscious.
ok, here is a better question concidering that is it possable to help someone like that or are they doomed to being in abusive relationships until they die or worse are killed?
