Exactly backward. I said tangential issues might effect different outcomes, and might add to the wrongness,
but nothing mitigates the wrongness. Firing off a shotgun in a shopping mall is bad. If you break some glassware in a display, the situation gets worse. If hit a person and cause them pain, the situation becomes worse still. If they die, it's very bad indeed.
Your shotgun analogy is not appropriate because it has a hard boundary.
Writing an account of events is a
continuum on the scale of harmless to bad.
There is a such thing about a harmless amount of writing about my sex life. We're just trying to determine where that line is crossed.
Here's a hypothetical continuum, arbitrarily designating it from 0 (no violation) to 1.0 (utter violation):
Far left 0.01: "I had sex." Is this a violation? I'm gonna say no.
0.02 left: "I had sex with a girl." I'm still gonna say no.
0.05 left : "I had sex with a girl in the reverse cowgirl position." Are we getting into a grey area?
0.8 left (or .2 right): "I had sex with one of the girls in my book club." Definitely infringing on privacy, (because the person B might be deduced by a reader).
1.0 (0.0 right): I had kinky sex with Alice Smith."
Rearrange scenarios and value any way that suits you, or add more.
Where do
you draw the line on that continuum? Are you asserting that the violation of privacy occurs at
0.0? That there is
no possible way I could write about having sex without violating my partner's privacy?