Singular "they".

You still haven't addressed my comments regarding non-binary gender.:) I understand why. Logically, it's hard to defend.
No, I was just limited on time. Only got to the first point.

Is that really the issue? I didn't grow up with a father (he died when I was 3). Three of my four grandparents were dead before I was born. My mother was 10 years older than most of the other parents, money was adequate but tight.

Is any of that something that I need to use as an excuse or is any of that anything that "society" needs to understand about me? That's life, everyone's circumstances are different.
You are talking about the person defining themselves by their situation.
I am talking about how others define the person.


When I went to look for an apartment, the landlord did not not ask whether I had a spouse and how could I afford this place without a guarantor.
When my wife did (before I came along) they did ask her.

That's not my wife defining herself as a single parent; that's the landlord doing so.

And was invisible to me because I am privileged to have people simply assume that - as a male - I have a steady and sufficient income.


I can present a dozen such cases, over an array of privileges (sex, orientation, gender, colour, age, wealth, etc.) if you want. Suffice to say there is nothing specious about this anecdote.
 
Last edited:
If I was bi do you think the admin would have given me a DYMO tag with BI NURSE?
:)
Of course not. Because bi is not a gender - it's a sexual orientation. They are orthogonal traits (ie independent of each other).

Gender is how you identify.
Orientation is how you prefer your partners.

(You're having a lot of difficulty with this, aren't you? :wink:)
 
Last edited:
(You're having a lot of difficulty with this, aren't you? :wink:)

You noticed? While was in hospital they put me through 3 cognitive test

Missed (muddled a couple) but thought I'm OK. On discharge gave me 5 page summary from the staff giving treatment

My cognitive test I came at 65%. Bit of blow to ego :). Off to Bali 8th August, have the girls there treat my sore back and ego :). Four weeks 4 ladies each with different skills. One I haven't met yet (long story). They all know about each other, a couple are good friends and another pairing share me on their free days

And no I haven't with this pair :D

Will still have free time for SciForum :rolleyes:

:)
 
Whereas, in Finnish, it is the pronouns that tend to be omitted, as the the verb endings are changed to reflect the pronoun.

Hi,

"... the verb endings are changed to reflect the pronoun."

Thank you for bringing that up. It is a common trick.

Finno-Ugric languages
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finno-Ugric_languages

= = =

to know the ropes

Linguists are politicians.
Grammars are constitutions.

= = =

Germanic, Finno-Ugric, Turkic, Arabic, ...

slave (n.)
https://www.etymonline.com/search?q=slave

...
 
No, I was just limited on time. Only got to the first point.


You are talking about the person defining themselves by their situation.
I am talking about how others define the person.


When I went to look for an apartment, the landlord did not not ask whether I had a spouse and how could I afford this place without a guarantor.
When my wife did (before I came along) they did ask her.

That's not my wife defining herself as a single parent; that's the landlord doing so.

And was invisible to me because I am privileged to have people simply assume that - as a male - I have a steady and sufficient income.


I can present a dozen such cases, over an array of privileges (sex, orientation, gender, colour, age, wealth, etc.) if you want. Suffice to say there is nothing specious about this anecdote.

When I moved to Phoenix for grad school the first few apartment complexes I went to categorically wouldn't rent to me because I didn't have a job. I finally found a place where they would rent to anyone who said they could afford to pay the rent but I was beginning to wonder if this was going to be a big problem.

I suspect today that it is much more common. With all of the anti-discrimination laws on the books it makes landlords even more careful because it's hard to get rid of anyone and you have to rent to the first person in the door. So now they check much more carefully the few areas where they can be "discriminating".
 
OK, so you acknowledge its true.
Yes and it's life as well. It's not something that doesn't happen to white males. It also doesn't really add a lot to the conversation.

It's like saying women don't think I understand motherhood as well as they do. True but so what?
 
Yes and it's life as well. It's not something that doesn't happen to white males. It also doesn't really add a lot to the conversation.

It's like saying women don't think I understand motherhood as well as they do. True but so what?
OK so you're defending it.

'Privilege is part of life' is your response.
 
OK so you're defending it - "privilege is part of life".


We just agreed that it does not.

Being told you can't have a lease because you are a woman is discrimination.

Being told you can't have a lease because you are jobless is not discrimination.
Did they tell your wife that she couldn't have it because she was a woman?
 
Did they tell your wife that she couldn't have it because she was a woman?
They asked where her children's father was, and said they were not confident she could meet her payments.

I'm not defending anything. I'm just not being hypersensitive about it.
Who says anyone is being 'hypersensitive' ? Are you suggesting the woman who can't get a place because she's a woman is being 'hypersensitive'? The black guy in Starbucks being asked his business there is being 'hypersensitive'?
 
They asked where her children's father was, and said they were not confident she could meet her payments.


Who says anyone is being 'hypersensitive' ? Are you suggesting the woman who can't get a place because she's a woman is being 'hypersensitive'? The black guy in Starbucks being asked his business there is being 'hypersensitive'?
I couldn't get an apartment either but I wasn't hypersensitive about it. I kept looking.

When I was a kid we were asked if we were going to buy anything. It happens. It's not right but it's life. It didn't stop me from buying something and it didn't stop me from finding an apartment.

We don't know it was because she was female and he was black.
 
C C:
.... gender-neutral text in Polish, a heavily gendered language, was less comprehensible than gendered text. Further, people described with gender-neutral language were rated less favorably than people described as men or women...

It's not clear to me whether you think this means that gender-neutral pronouns are a bad idea, which seems to be the general thrust of your comments.

Two questions arise. The first one is whether the problem lies in the non-binary people or in the binary-gendered language. Is it the people who need fixing, in your opinion, or the language?

The second question is a cart vs horse one: is the less-favourable rating for people described in non-binary terms due to a deficiency in the language, or is it due to existing biases among those who are judging? Again, probably you need to work out whether this is a language problem, or a people problem.

At the moment, your focus seems to be on "fixing" the (non-binary) people to address the first problem, and assuming that the second problem is best fixed by avoiding non-binary language. In other words, the gist of your argument seems to be that non-binary people need fixing and that if they were eliminated as a problem we wouldn't need to mess with the language.
One of the many future challenges on the ever-expanding social justice front is: How will we respectfully address people who psychological identify with being non-human animals?
Then there's this bit, which is a slippery-slope fallacy.

It all smacks of intolerance, unfortunately.
 
I guess the idea with "they" is that their gender isn't singular and therefore "they" being plural is used.
It's more likely that "they" is used because it is an established gender-neutral term. It has nothing to do with plurality.
 
Back
Top