DaveC426913
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No, I was just limited on time. Only got to the first point.You still haven't addressed my comments regarding non-binary gender. I understand why. Logically, it's hard to defend.
You are talking about the person defining themselves by their situation.Is that really the issue? I didn't grow up with a father (he died when I was 3). Three of my four grandparents were dead before I was born. My mother was 10 years older than most of the other parents, money was adequate but tight.
Is any of that something that I need to use as an excuse or is any of that anything that "society" needs to understand about me? That's life, everyone's circumstances are different.
I am talking about how others define the person.
When I went to look for an apartment, the landlord did not not ask whether I had a spouse and how could I afford this place without a guarantor.
When my wife did (before I came along) they did ask her.
That's not my wife defining herself as a single parent; that's the landlord doing so.
And was invisible to me because I am privileged to have people simply assume that - as a male - I have a steady and sufficient income.
I can present a dozen such cases, over an array of privileges (sex, orientation, gender, colour, age, wealth, etc.) if you want. Suffice to say there is nothing specious about this anecdote.
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