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Darky has made threads like these all the time, for several of the last years. He has a desperation to get laid, but does nothing about it but post here. In the beginning many of us tried to help him, but our advice falls on deaf ears. After so long most peoples patience has worn thin. We might have sympathy if it was a case that he tries exceptionally hard and is unlucky or just can't find the right women for him, but really it's not like that. He's perfectly capable of getting laid, and if he's really so socially inept I would suggest professional help, or at least help on a forum for sexual advice.
I don't think anyone dislikes the guy, in fact he's quite good natured, especially considering the replies he gets, but we just wish he'd listen and get out there!
Anti-Flag

Thank you for the reply, Anti-Flag.

So.....if I understand the above correctly, once we run out of patience with someone, it is acceptable to act like social boors?

I fail to see what benefit can accrue from that approach.

It is said that where knowledge ends abuse begins.
 
I fail to see what benefit can accrue from that approach.

The man, Darky, is over 30 years old and he asks the exact same questions over and over and has been explained to in many instances what he should do. Good advice was given to him many times but he only returns with the same questions that he asked time after time. If he can't understand after being told at least 10 times then there's something wrong with the man not the people that have tried to help him, which he never has thanked by the way probably because he can't understand what he is being told. :shrug:
 
The man, Darky, is over 30 years old and he asks the exact same questions over and over and has been explained to in many instances what he should do. Good advice was given to him many times but he only returns with the same questions that he asked time after time. If he can't understand after being told at least 10 times then there's something wrong with the man not the people that have tried to help him, which he never has thanked by the way probably because he can't understand what he is being told. :shrug:

In which case, I would fall back on the advice given me as a child, "When you can't find something nice to say, best to say nothing at all."

Perhaps I do not fully comprehend what people use this venue for.

Silly me. I've actually been seeking information and an understanding of what what motivates people.

Instead, it's seems to be a game of on-line charades. :eek:

I never liked charades in real life, lol......
 
I decided to not listen to anymore from her. I told her I feel she still loves the other guy she liked and also I felt she liked him more than she ever liked me so it makes no sense to ask me this. I told her I missed her alot sometimes but it's not enough for either of us. anyway :/
 
Anti-flag
If you have big boobs and big hips, most other things become less significant anyways. Just so long as that wasn't where you lost the weight, then it may have helped accentuate any curves.

Actually, I think it was the butt I got from bicycling everywhere. Wouldn't quit.
Having gained a small amount of weight on my ring finger since then...:D.... I worry a lot less about looks and a lot more about health.
I really like being married! No more adventure, Gandalf ! :)

scheherazade:
So.....if I understand the above correctly, once we run out of patience with someone, it is acceptable to act like social boors?

I've actually made the observation that DarksidZz really needs to learn to formulate his own plans and act on them. And that we ought to encourage him in that.

But this behavior of hers is kind of...um,emotionally yo-yo-ey, borderline personality disorder-y type behavior...meaning unless she's aware and working hard on getting better?
It's highly likely she is bad news on legs.
Nucking futz.

So I jes' couldn' hep mahsef, lawd-a-mussy.

I'm only nasty to people when they are nasty first...and then I may just Ignore-list 'em instead.

For instance, take the fat-phobic nastiness upthread. P!ssed me off.

I've lost the kind of weight most obese people dream of and a lot of people get surgery for. And it really sucked.
Keeping it off is hard freaking work too.

People like Anti-flag and Cosmic treat you like $h!t for being fat, then wonder why you hate yourself.

Alright, I'm done over that.
 
I decided to not listen to anymore from her. I told her I feel she still loves the other guy she liked and also I felt she liked him more than she ever liked me so it makes no sense to ask me this. I told her I missed her alot sometimes but it's not enough for either of us. anyway :/

It hurts, I imagine. But saying no to what you don't want is necessary to getting what you do want.
Hey! you took action! Cool beans.
:idea:
 
There are a lot of confused people when it comes to the topic of relationships. Perhaps the first person that one should get to know prior to seeking a relationship is themselves.

Unless one has a very clear of what one is looking for in a relationship, it can be difficult to communicate same to another. Rushing into the physical aspect without getting to know the other as a complete person can lead to a rude awakening early one.

My parents fought all the time, and I decided at a young age that I did not want a life like that. :(

Fighting, yelling and shouting, throwing things, derogatory remarks, threats are all unknown in my own relationships and I have been a serial monogamist both prior to and since marriage, and through a divorce where my first husband and I remained friends throughout.

Respect yourself first. Respect your significant other and expect no less in return.

Off course you will not agree on everything, but hurting each other does not build a relationship of trust.

Communication and mutual compromise are the key components, in my experience.

'The leopard does not change his spots.'

While we can change much of our conduct, it is believed that one's innate nature is determined at birth.

Just something to consider when seeking to know yourself first. Find the balance in your own nature before seeking it in others.

In my life, relationships have had the attributes of water: they only flow one way. All but one have remained friends after separation.
 
Why are many of you rude and mean to this poster?
It appears that this has been explained to you. Perhaps you understand now. He is a loser and he's proud of being a loser. He parades his loserness in front of us at regular intervals. Just when we think he's finally hit rock-bottom, he shows up with some absolutely preposterous new problem that defies belief. Were you here when he was asking about how he should go about liquidating all his assets, defaulting on his car loan, and using the proceeds to make his way to Hawaii, where he'd be able to drop out? He talks as though he actually believes that life in Hawaii is cheap! He must have found a 1952 edition of Frommer's tourist guide and thinks you can live in a cave on the beach on Kauai and cut down coconuts for food!

He has sponged off of everyone he knows and been kicked out of their homes. He had a decent job and blew it off for reasons never made quite clear. He has some computer skills but he can't seem to get a job where he'd be paid for them. He refuses to enroll in a university even though the one thing he appears to have is some basic raw untamed intelligence.
What do your unkind personal remarks to darksidZz and other posters on this forum say about yourselves?
That everyone has their limits for tolerating people who refuse to help themselves but just want to complain about how bad their lives are.
I read and research a great number of topics that I do not practice in life, purely from curiosity. An ancient civilization like the Chinese have long held an interest in Astrology and even in the U.S. an estimated 25% of the population responded as having a belief in Astrology.
A much larger percentage of the U.S. population believe in the Abrahamic religions but that doesn't stop them from being complete bullshit.
. . . . I expect that a hundred years from now, our best science is likewise going to have people in stitches when they examine our current understanding and where it is lacking.
What makes you say that? We don't feel that way about the science of 100 years ago. Both the chemistry and physics of 1911 were on the right track. Astronomy has been on the right track since Galileo. The biology of the early 20th century was sufficiently advanced that it pissed off the Religious Redneck Retards and they prosecuted people for teaching evolution.

The 19th century was the Century of Chemistry, the 20th was the Century of Physics, and the 21st is widely expected to be the Century of Biology.
So.....if I understand the above correctly, once we run out of patience with someone, it is acceptable to act like social boors?
Perhaps not acceptable, but inevitable. Everyone's patience has limits. This particular website has many nice characteristics, but social graces are not one of them.
I fail to see what benefit can accrue from that approach.
Darxy keeps coming back and posting his ridiculous "questions," knowing that there are no answers to them. Even if there were, we know that he would continue to never take anyone's advice so long as it requires him to actually expend some effort.

Clearly he gets some kind of perverse enjoyment out of being our jester. Like a child who acts stupid just to get attention.
I've actually made the observation that DarksidZz really needs to learn to formulate his own plans and act on them.
Yeah, pretty much everybody here has made the same observation.
And that we ought to encourage him in that.
Everybody knows that too. Most of us indeed have encouraged him. It's pointless. He never does it. He goes away for a few weeks, ignores the advice, and comes back with a new set of problems. I've met people like him in real life. They don't want to be successful because they're afraid of the responsibility that comes with success. It's so much easier to be a failure and complain about it--at least it apparently is for them. Most of us would rather be dead.
But this behavior of hers is kind of...um,emotionally yo-yo-ey, borderline personality disorder-y type behavior...meaning unless she's aware and working hard on getting better?
Meaning this is the only kind of person that he has any chance of establishing a relationship with. People who are merely five sigmas away from normal run the other way when they see him coming. If you think we treat him badly in the silicon world, life is much harder for him in the carbon world.
People like Anti-flag and Cosmic treat you like $h!t for being fat, then wonder why you hate yourself.
Fat people love folks like me who don't care about their weight. But then when they lose weight they get really mad at us for not noticing that they've lost it. Ya can't win.
 
Fat people love folks like me who don't care about their weight. But then when they lose weight they get really mad at us for not noticing that they've lost it. Ya can't win.

:p

Meaning this is the only kind of person that he has any chance of establishing a relationship with. People who are merely five sigmas away from normal run the other way when they see him coming. If you think we treat him badly in the silicon world, life is much harder for him in the carbon world.

Ouch
So he's gotta work on himself intensively and stop worrying about the girl thing.
 
In which case, I would fall back on the advice given me as a child, "When you can't find something nice to say, best to say nothing at all."

Perhaps I do not fully comprehend what people use this venue for.

Silly me. I've actually been seeking information and an understanding of what what motivates people.

Instead, it's seems to be a game of on-line charades. :eek:

I never liked charades in real life, lol......
I think people use this site for stress release . There is a certain amount frustration in the tone of the forum as a whole .

You are a strange bird my dear . I don't know if it is just Me or others feel thew same way , but your culture and Mine are like reflections of the same thing .
Now I know you don't use vulgarity like me , but the things you say are only one breath away from my own lips . It is truly astounding to me . Is it the culture of the West Coast area ? Is the the age group ? You must be about the same age as Me . Yeah that is what I am thinking ?
 
Jinx's Heard of em ? That is when 2 people say the same word at the same time. When we were children and we would say the same word at the same time one person would say Jinx . I don't know why except I think the Idea was the person who didn't say Jinx first was Jinxed .
 
Thank you for the reply, Anti-Flag.

So.....if I understand the above correctly, once we run out of patience with someone, it is acceptable to act like social boors?

I fail to see what benefit can accrue from that approach.

It is said that where knowledge ends abuse begins.

In some peoples minds, yes. People get tired of trying to help those who do not help themselves when they're capable.
But since he's harmless I prefer to poke fun. :p
 
chimpkin
I really like being married! No more adventure, Gandalf

Your only going from one type of an adventure into another one. Everything throughout your lifetime is an adventure, sometimes good then sometimes bad, but that's life Frodo.;)
 
I decided to not listen to anymore from her. I told her I feel she still loves the other guy she liked and also I felt she liked him more than she ever liked me so it makes no sense to ask me this. I told her I missed her alot sometimes but it's not enough for either of us. anyway
Good! Now you can try to move on.

Actually, I think it was the butt I got from bicycling everywhere. Wouldn't quit.
Having gained a small amount of weight on my ring finger since then..... I worry a lot less about looks and a lot more about health.
I really like being married! No more adventure, Gandalf ! :)
Nothing wrong with a nice butt. Yeh the ring finger weight always changes things :p

For instance, take the fat-phobic nastiness upthread. P!ssed me off.

I've lost the kind of weight most obese people dream of and a lot of people get surgery for. And it really sucked.
Keeping it off is hard freaking work too.

People like Anti-flag and Cosmic treat you like $h!t for being fat, then wonder why you hate yourself.

Alright, I'm done over that.
Come on, you admitted yourself in your "fat" days you'd have done anyone who asked, and posted a survey to suggest fat girls get laid more! (which I actually questioned). It's hardly out of line to suggest they're dirty and desperate.
I admire the honesty, as you're not the only one like that, and at least you admit it.
If I was really that horrible to fat people, how do you think I'd know so many were like that?
Saying someone is fat isn't an insult, saying they're disgusting because of it is. I've said I find the desperation and sluttiness disgusting, which can apply to all weights, but is just more frequent. And I think you missed the part where I mentioned big tits and big hips being a positive :p
Call a spade a spade as they say.
 
chimpkin
People like Anti-flag and Cosmic treat you like $h!t for being fat, then wonder why you hate yourself.

Please show where I was saying something wrong about being plump. Thanks. If you felt I was being inconsiderate will you accept my apologies for doing so?
 
it never works out. relationships are either good enough to remain in, or bad enough to remain out.
That's not necessarily true. I know plenty of couples with an on again/off again relationship. Sometimes you need some time apart to realize how much you care for someone.

On the other hand, a lot of couples have a "backslide" after breaking up and get back together for a short time just to remind themselves why they broke up.

Either way, what's the big deal? If you're not seeing anyone else, why not get back together and have some fun? It beats sitting in the basement playing video games or surfing the net to bitch about your lack of female companionship.
 
Originally Posted by scheherazade
Why are many of you rude and mean to this poster?

Thank you to all who responded to my query.

Now my question is to the original poster:

DarksidZz, are you aware that this is the way you come across to these responders?

Are the allegations an accurate portrayal of how you view yourself?

If not, where do the details differ?

In 100 words or less, without using acronyms please. :)
 
The reason I have to be careful is because she has children, I can't just blindly go charging into anything with a woman like that. Anyways it don't matter I'm not accepting her back.
 
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