I emphasize ideally because people tend to have very different views on what actually constitutes a person's welfare and benefit.
And further what can seem, even to the agent, like concern about one's welfare, can actually be hatred of the one the concern is aimed at. At least, so it has felt to me. Any rule about this kind of thing can be abused by people's lack of self-awareness. And of course a racist concerned about my 'hanging out with niggers'....who challenges my 'naive politically correct views of race'....is this person in fact obligated to challenge me? Or have they already gone past a deeper need to challenge their own ideas?
This example is, in a way, misleading, since we may all think this is 'obvious' while at the same time confident in our own decisions to intervene.
If two people hold the same values, the same ideas about welfare and benefit, then interactions between them are, of course easy, even when they involve criticism.
Yes. Though even here, interpretations of those same values - which I assume would be laid out in words - can vary so significantly that their 'sameness' is only apparent.
But people are usually barely compatible in their values, so criticism often turns into a fight for getting the upper hand.
Yes.
While I readily acknowledge the versatility and relativity of what constitutes welfare and benefit, I need to point out that it undermines one's own (ethical, philosophical) stance if one does not impose (yes!) it upon others.
It is very messy.
If, for example, I believe that beating children is wrong, and I see a mother beating her child but I don't do anything - then this undermines my conviction that beating children is wrong.
So the obligation to challenge another's views comes from being true to one's own convictions.
And how do we distinguish between two people who each have very strong convictions about very similar seeming ideas, where one of them intervenes a lot and the other intervenes only rarely. Can they both be moral in their prioritization of intervention?
If one doesn't stand for one's own convictions when the opportunity for that actually arises, then one might as well not have those convictions at all and doesn't benefit from them.
Right now I am...how shall I say it...in the mood to agree, because right now I am surprised to find that a strong interventionist stance does in fact seem moral and to some degree a form of self-care - following your interesting lead here. But I notice that for most of my life my interventions were rare, often only in close relationships, and here very cautious. I think this was not simply being overprotective of myself and showing a lack of conviction.
I get the impression you might at least sympathize with whatever instinctive caution I have here, one based on some value that perhaps we both prioritize. IOW I can come at this issue from one angle and feel intervening is something I should do more often. I can come at it from another angle and feel intervening is something I should do less often.
Well - we have mutually (at least some of us) agreed upon to take correction from others.
That certainly seems a fair conclusion. Interesting.
I just mulled this some and realized that context means a lot. For example: are the ideas dominant in some way? I feel less inclined to intervene in relation to marginal opinions. But if it is an idea that I see as supported by the mass of whatever context, I feel a stronger urge to intervene. I guess here this might play out in a greater defense, on my part, of Abrahamic religions, and if I am critical of beliefs in those religions, I am more likely to out myself as a theist in the discussion - since this at least is an indirect intervention against the dominant pattern here. I think there are other contextual factors.
I need to mull, interesting!