exchemist:
Four-vectors in GR are objects that transform in a particular way (using the Lorentz transformations) when you change reference frames. They are constructed so as to maintain the form of familiar definitions of quantities like $\vec{p}=m\vec{v}$. To run with the example of momentum, the problem is that the Newtonian 3-momentum is not conserved in collisions when you change reference frames. Therefore, we need to find some kind of similar quantity that is properly conserved when we change frames. What we end up with is 4-momentum, which happens to be $(c, v_x, v_y, v_z)$.
4-force is defined as $\bf{F}=\frac{d\bf{P}}{d\tau}$, that is the rate of change of the 4-momentum with respect to the proper time. In GR, the derivative is actually a covariant derivative.