Well, Tristan, in the case of what I read you are advicing Shrike exactly right.
Young women, with an attitude like this are insecure about themselves. They think they have to look like the mostly 'beautiful' women they see on the tv and read about in magazines. That has always been a wrong image of how a woman should look like. It is impossible to look that same way, but they think they are to ugly and to fat and not good enough then to have a nice boyfriend who treats them right. When they have a boyfriend at last, they will always stay 'afraid' and insecure about getting and holding on to him. So that is why they always want to hear from him that they are fine and beautiful enough. They won't believe it because society says you have to look like a model or so. These young girls start claiming their boyfriends with these telling them of: I am going to kill myself if you leave me. Very bad, and sad too, because whatever you tell them, it takes a very long and hard time to make them sure you are her boyfriend just because you like her the way she is.
Why would he become her boyfriend then? Because she was so ugly and useless? And you can tell them the sweetest and most loving things, it will take long or never that she really, deep in her heart, accepts that it is true what the boyfriend tells them.
Best you can do is tell her that and if she keeps acting this way, you better leave her, how hard it may be for the both of them, because these girls are not quite ready for a relationship. They first have to learn that practically no girl looks as good as a model or actress, it's all so fake, but they do not realize this yet. Later they discover themselves better I hope. If not then there is a good chance they fall down to doing drugs, more heavy then Marijuana. It is sad, but it happens a lot, more often then you think and it is all because they have not had enough encouragement from their parents from the day hey were born.
Parents have to teach their young daughters that television and modelling is a hard job in which the women have a hard time in real life too. A whole lot of actresses and models deal with drug or alcohol problems. As soon as young women will realize that, they may turn around and start thinking some better about themselves. The ones who have not realized this, stay in the drugs or alcohol zone for a long time and that is a really, really sad thing which happens to often. I am sad to hear this about your friend(s) Shrike. If encouraging your girlfriend doesn't work and you are getting to start crazy of it, you better leave her, because how sad it is, she will stay this way for a long time if you really cannot get to her. I hope everything will work out for the girls, and that it stays with Marijuana, let them please stay away from the Heroin....
I am really sad because it happens all the time, young women lost in hard-drugs and/or alcohol, for a long time of their lives. It is very hard to get rid of the Heroin, you have to stand very strong for yourself if you want to quit with Heroin....That feels really like hell and it is not over in a few days, it lasts weeks before all the garbage of the Heroin/Cocaine is out of your system. Most people lose this struggle, for it is terrible to try to go without and hold on to going without the drug.
And so we created a chat-list, in stead of a chat thingy.
