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I'm wondering if any of you have ever broken up with someone over religion. Maybe you are religious and they aren't or maybe it was the other way around.
Have you ever been in a relationship where religion hadn't been a big deal and then later it became a big deal for only one party to the relationship.
I've had a girlfriend who was religious (sort of ) and went to church every week. It started just to take her elderly mother but then she realized that she didn't know whether she was doing her mother a favor or whether her mother was doing her a favor.
She rarely mentioned religion around me. Occasionally it would come up and I noticed that the church was extreme in some areas, she wasn't extreme but just said "Maybe it would be better if everyone did as the church suggested but that it was a hard life and we weren't perfect.".
In other words, she wasn't acting any differently than I was but just considered that maybe she should be but that it was too hard?
Fast forward and I have a friend who just got remarried (2nd wife) a couple of years ago. This new wife is religious. I don't know how religious he was before her. She mentions God in every other sentence, volunteers with youth groups and now posts on Facebook asking for prayers for minor nonsense.
It just occurred to me that this could be very tiring for the other person (him). I have another friend who is just getting involved with a seemingly great person but she used to be a youth pastor, doesn't believe in Evolution and mentions God a fair amount as well.
I live in a part of the country where religion isn't as common as in the part of the country that I grew up in. Until recently, I've rarely heard religion come up in conversation for a long, long time.
I always thought that if I started to date someone that I liked and then found out that they were religious but not too overtly so, that it might be OK. It was OK that one time. Now I"m not so sure. I can't think of anything more emotionally tiring than to fall in love with someone, be together and then all of a sudden have them get too into religion.
I'm just curious as to where this has ever been a problem for any of you. I haven't heard too much about this problem even though it must come up all the time.
Have you ever been in a relationship where religion hadn't been a big deal and then later it became a big deal for only one party to the relationship.
I've had a girlfriend who was religious (sort of ) and went to church every week. It started just to take her elderly mother but then she realized that she didn't know whether she was doing her mother a favor or whether her mother was doing her a favor.
She rarely mentioned religion around me. Occasionally it would come up and I noticed that the church was extreme in some areas, she wasn't extreme but just said "Maybe it would be better if everyone did as the church suggested but that it was a hard life and we weren't perfect.".
In other words, she wasn't acting any differently than I was but just considered that maybe she should be but that it was too hard?
Fast forward and I have a friend who just got remarried (2nd wife) a couple of years ago. This new wife is religious. I don't know how religious he was before her. She mentions God in every other sentence, volunteers with youth groups and now posts on Facebook asking for prayers for minor nonsense.
It just occurred to me that this could be very tiring for the other person (him). I have another friend who is just getting involved with a seemingly great person but she used to be a youth pastor, doesn't believe in Evolution and mentions God a fair amount as well.
I live in a part of the country where religion isn't as common as in the part of the country that I grew up in. Until recently, I've rarely heard religion come up in conversation for a long, long time.
I always thought that if I started to date someone that I liked and then found out that they were religious but not too overtly so, that it might be OK. It was OK that one time. Now I"m not so sure. I can't think of anything more emotionally tiring than to fall in love with someone, be together and then all of a sudden have them get too into religion.
I'm just curious as to where this has ever been a problem for any of you. I haven't heard too much about this problem even though it must come up all the time.
