I hope you actually believe that. I thought for a bit there you were trying to show I was really in agreement with Buddhism - meaning essentially that I had misunderstood Buddhism and seen differences that were not there.
And I think that in "Eastern" cultures, this line of reasoning is taken further to its consequences - the understanding that there are circumstances in which it is better not to show one's emotions.
In my experience with Buddhists both in the West and East these circumstances make up 99% of the time.
Perhaps on the surface, this is sometimes misleadingly explained as "emotions are bad".
You wouldn't tell a small child "Don't go into the cars of strangers, no matter what they offer you - because they might abuse you and then you will be dead or have a lifetime of trauma to work through" and instead tell them "Don't go with strangers, strangers are bad". The instruction you give the child depends on your assessment of the child's reasoning and of how efficient a particular instruction might be. - I think similar goes with other instructions and guidelines for life.
Again, it seems like they forgot the original flexibility and use it in general. Flat affect was also praised.
I think we're actually heading toward the same thing, but are conceptualizing it differently. In the Avoiding the pits of extreme skepticism, I am bringing up the importance of admitting and dealing with whatever comes up in the mind and not refraining from the extremely good and the extremely bad.
In the West mind tends to be thought of as verbal thoughts, in Buddhism the term 'mind' -as with some Western philosophers- is more inclusive. I am assuming that you sense of mind includes non-verbal things, images, emotions, etc. Could you explain what 'admitting', 'dealing with' and 'not refraining' mean?
In general with Buddhists I find more differences here. I share the urge toward radical self-awareness and honesty, but from there my experience has been that Buddhists 'observe' and distance themselves. Allowing expression seems like a non-issue for them.
I began to experience this as an unnecessary restraint. I yearned not to keep, for example, emotions cut off from expression. Some teachers said that I did not realize what was hidden in the depths. I have long since come in contact with what is hidden in those depths. I certainly have sympathy for their fears there, but these fears became judgements that these realms must forever remain severed from expression. I have found that to be incorrect at least in my case and in the cases of others I know.
I think there is a tendency to assume that, for example, the Buddhism was a timeless example. He achieved perfection or enlightenment and did not have cultural of personal psychological bias in his choices and ideas. Further that at that stage in history humans were ready to face all that was inside us. A lot has happened since his time. Humans have been exploring themselves in ways that were not permitted at that time. Family secrets have been held in place and seen as wild exceptions - incestual sexual abuse, for example - until only quite recently. Pandora's box was not opening yet. In that milieu it may have seemed inevitable and necessary to keep the lid closed. In a sense I am saying that it was the best or a good choice at the time. But that does not mean we need to see it as the best choice now.
I think I will leave this thread at this point. I feel like I am getting too close to proselytizing - hell, perhaps I crossed that line long ago - and that is something I want to avoid. I realize my attempts to point out differences are not complete and may not be clear, but this was a shot at saying why I left.