The way the accelerating observer (the "AO") defines his "NOW" instant at distant locations comes directly from the gravitational time dilation equation, via the equivalence principle. It says that a "helper friend" (HF) who always is accelerating exactly as the AO is accelerating, with acceleration A, will age at a rate that is a fixed known ratio of the AO's rate. The given HF and the AO are always a constant distance "d" apart. If the chosen HF is BEHIND the AO (compared to the direction of the acceleration), that HF will age SLOWER than the AO by the factor exp(A d). To keep things as simple as possible, we can always let all of the HF's and the AO's ages be the same, immediately before they all start accelerating. Then the ratio of the age of the "behind" HF's age to the AO's age is just 1/exp(A d). And if, instead, another HF is AHEAD of the AO (compared to the direction of the acceleration), then the ratio of that "ahead" HF's age to the AO's age is just exp(A d). (Of course, different "behind" HF's will have different distances "d" to the AO, and likewise for the "ahead" HF's.) So, at some instant T in the AO's life, he computes that the original "behind" HF's current age is T/exp(A d). Or, alternatively, he computes that the "ahead" HF's current age is T exp(A d) The way he SELECTS the HF from among all possible HF's (both ahead and behind him) is such that the chosen HF is momentarily co-located with the home twin (her) at the instant the AO wants to know her current age.
So, if all of the above is correct, that allows the AO to construct an array of (effectively) synchronized clocks and helper observers attached to him, similar to what a perpetually-inertial observer can do, that can put an observer momentarily co-located with the distant twin (her) at the instant in the AO's life when he wants to know her current age. And in both the perpetually-inertial and the accelerated cases, it would be ABSURD for that momentarily co-located observer to observe a large and abrupt change in her age at that instant.