You can take their fucking toys away. You don't have to follow Christianity (or Judaism) and beat them.
If they keep failing at school, keep getting drunk etc. - then what do you do?
Ask them, nicely, to, pretty please, get themselves together?
So if I revoke your assets I am not being dominating and fearful?
Fearsome.
Around a fearsome person, others are afraid or fearful.
I don't understand how one can act in the capacity of enforcing negative consequences without being dominating and fearful ....
Actually its the intelligence of someone in such a position of authority to bring the correct level of "volume" to an act in order to deliver results ... being dominating and fearful is simply the natural consequences
Perhaps Spidergoat doesn't have experience with training anyone, beyond cats.
Domestic cats are indeed, generally, aversive to any use of force, and any use of force against a cat will tend to result in the cat becoming withdrawn, fearful, or leave. Punishing the cat does not make it refrain from an undesired behavior.
Which is why in order to get a cat to refrain from doing something you don't want it to do, you have to use creative and goodwilled alternatives, such as distractions.
This is just how cats are. But then to begin with, people have cats in order to dominate the house and to look pretty, not to do as told or to be able to succeed in life on their own.
Dogs and children do not have the role of cats. Dogs are expected to do as told, and children are expected to grow up and be able to take care of themselves.