Zen something
Lori 7 said:
Zen acuity.
i have no problem empathizing. i told you already that i spent the better part of my life identifying myself as a heterosexual.
The second sentence is non-sequitur to the first.
Beyond that, surprise me.
well gee tiassa, if there's nothing disgusting about them, and there's nothing disgusting about sex, then why would it be disgusting to have sex with them?
Lori, it is my general presumption that people are smart enough to understand certain basic ideas. Admittedly, this is a dangerous proposition, as it is constantly shown to be wrong. But let's try this:
• If fucking you doesn't feel good, does that make you a bad person?
I'm going to say no. I'm very interested in your answer, and why.
well obviously some people are worth having sex with and some aren't, and in regards to orientation, that worth is decided by their gender.
No, actually, it's not. For some, sure, but as I noted before, those outcomes have specific etiologies removed from the basic question of sexual orientation. However, when you stop to consider that "roughly a quarter of all gay men don't enjoy and don't indulge in anal sex" (
Savage), it should become clear that it's not about your piehole. I mean, the hole in your pie. Er ... I mean your vagina.
It's about something far more profound. Perhaps you've never experienced it with
any lover. Or maybe you have and just don't think men, or homosexuals, or whomever, can feel it.
Whichever, I would still suggest your standard about sex appeal and individual worth speaks far more about
you than anyone else.
oh stop with the dramatics won't you? if i'm denigrating anyone, then i'm denigrating the vast majority of people in the world and on this forum. i'm not playing favorites like you are. i'm not singling out homosexuals. i'm saying that sexual orientation itself doesn't make sense to me.
Right. And gay people can't have sex. Or are you going to retract that?
why do you keep focusing on homosexuals vs heterosexuals? because i'm not making that distinction.
When did you stop?
Never mind. What the hell are you talking about, then? Remember,
you are the one who made sexual orientation about bigotry.
i'm not lying. why are you overreacting and assigning conclusions and intent to my words when it's not there. i chose to do that to myself for a reason of my own. i in no way suggested that anyone else do what i did. the point was, AGAIN, that taste is not inherent.
The only way this works is if we presume that your responses to String, from which I extracted those quotes, were written completely without regard to the posts you allegedly responded to.
You know, I frequently do this patronizing lecture about how there are these things called letters, and we string them together into words, which make sentences, paragraphs, and so on. The point of it is that at Sciforums, and on the internet in general, people seem to have difficulty recognizing themes. It's as if one sentence isn't connected to the next, and there is no relation between paragraphs, chapters, posts, and so on.
Okay, look: I might be able to force myself to eat enough chorizo to acclimate myself to it. Who knows, I might even be able to
love the stuff. But that doesn't mean I'm going to find a pussy that smells like chorizo attractive any more than I would one that smells or tastes like asiago.
Right there is part of the problem. It appears you
never understood the chorizo issue. To the other, if you ever happen to read through that whole disaster again, and finally get it, let me know. We can start this whole argument over on completely new terms.
But what do you really expect when someone asks you questions about rape and you respond by dodging the issue and talking about forcing yourself to eat stuff you don't like and eventually learning to love it?
Really. Just
stop. Put everything else we're arguing about, and all your pride, aside for a few minutes, and go back and read through that exchange you had with String. Let's just start with something simple.
How do you think your answers relate to the questions? That is, when String asked you about lesbians being "required" to take a dick, what did masculine and feminine attributes of men and women have to do with anything? When asked if gay men should be required to sleep with women, what does it matter that you're pouting because someone doesn't want to fuck a vagina? When that question was reiterated, you finally said that genitalia should be a non-issue, which is absurd enough in itself, for suggesting that a sexual partner's comfort and sense of security is a non-issue. And it is also self-contradictory: If your vagina is a non-issue, then stop getting upset that gay men won't fuck it.
and like i said, some of them don't
Zen acuity, yet again.
Ever hear of a Zen martini? It's a drink that features no gin and no vermouth. There's also no glass.
you're the one who insists on singling out homosexuals, not me.
Oh, stop with that, Lori. You're the one who threw a fit about gay men not liking pussy. You're the one who stuck your nose into "The Gay Fray" with that ridiculous formula describing sexual intercourse. You raised the issue. I'm following it. For instance:
no tiassa, i am not singling out gay sex as bigoted. i am saying that sexual orientation is bigoted.
How do I put this gently? I mean, since nothing else has worked?
Ah, let's try this:
That's stupid.
One of the odd things that happens around here is that people, when backed into a corner, devise these strange suppositions that all things and situations are equal.
Thus the existence of a fat man in another country means one should not criticize obesity in the U.S. Or joining a hobby club is no different from joining a religion. Hell, by your standard, punching you in the face at random is the same as raping you.
These things aren't the same.
Feminism has come a long way in my lifetime; I mention that to preface the note that over the years, I've seen a certain presupposition driven out of the culture. For heterosexual guys, sticking a penis into a warm, wet vagina—especially for the first time—is an overwhelmingly joyful feeling. Not always so for women. Yet over the course of my lifetime, I've seen the men's presupposition that since it feels that good for them it must necessarily feel that good for the women choke and gasp and very nearly die in the street. Now, I can't tell you what it feels like to have my vagina properly shagged, as I don't have one. But I can tell you that penetrating and being penetrated are
not the same.
As far as bigotry goes, yeah, you have a point if sexual intercourse is the psychological equivalent of sharing a church pew with someone.
And perhaps it is to you. But that would be quite the statistical deviation.
people are comfortable and attracted to all kinds of things. and that comfort and attraction or repulsion, whichever it might be, doesn't have to have anything to do with logic or truth.
O ... kay.
not many people define marriage the way i do, so how is that relevant? people don't have to define marriage the way i do...that's for me.
When you have bizarre, or even unique standards, don't be surprised if people question them. And if you use those standards to accuse, don't be surprised if people find you ridiculous.
sexual orientation is based in bigotry. and homophobes?! oh please! it's not the homophobes that are jumping down my throat now is it?
Why would homophobes attack one of their own? Especially when you've added such a novel and perplexing argument to their arsenal of hatred?
We'll try this again:
Let's start with something basic: Explain, please, the leap from evaluating the appeal of one's sex organs to judging the whole worth of a person.
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Notes:
Savage, Dan. "Plunge In". The Stranger. October 22, 2009. TheStranger.com. November 19, 2009. http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=2531572